My boyfriend isn't circumcised and it hurts him to much for sex or oral. Now wha!

My boyfriend isn't circumcised and it hurts him to much for sex or oral. Now what?

My boyfriend is not circumcised and when he tells me to touch him it hurts to much and he doesnt like oral b/c it hurts to. How do we get around that and make it stop hurting? Also no matter what we do he says he is horny and his dick does not stay hard. Even when he does it himself if he stops touching it for a second it's not hard anymore. Is that normal?

As for not staying up, chances are that he's just nervous. This is common when you guys just are starting up. Either nervous or overly excited. Hopefully it'll get better over time.

As far as the discomfort, an uncircumcised is more sensitive than a circumcised one (as multiple studies have concluded) but it shouldn't be THAT sensitive. So what he needs to do is tell him to try to rub the head when he showers. The more it's touched, the more 'used to' it'll become to being touched, I know, I went through it. If he says that it's too uncomfortable to rub, tell him to 'cup' water against his stomach when he showers, and gently drop it over the head of his penis. Then each day, gradually rub more and more. Eventually it'll be fine and you guys will like it.

Some may say that circumcision would fix the sensitivity problem, but that would bring in more harms than the just one benefit.

Circumcision = loss of sensitivity according to new study
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,2855...
http://www.circumstitions.com/sexuality....

Higher erectile dysfunction rates after circumcision:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query...

When women didn't know what penis they were dealing with (circumcised or uncircumcised) 9 out of 10 preferred uncircumcised (study).
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/...

Foreskin anatomy and function (keeps the glans soft and protects it, etc).
http://www.cirp.org/pages/anat/...

Circumcision is extremely painful.
http://www.cirp.org/library/procedure/pl...

The USA is the last advanced nation doing it, but rates have fallen down from over 90% in the 1960s to as low as 21% here in California currently. From CNN:
http://www.cnn.com/2007/health/06/18/cir...
http://www.cirp.org/library/statistics/u...

Circumcision was actually promoted in the USA at first to stop masturbation (in hopes of it being tight enough to require lubes and not have skin to slide since the foreskin is already moist)
http://english.pravda.ru/science/health/...

USA = highest HIV rates in advanced nations (and highest circumcision rates). CIA statistics:
https://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/fac...

And one study already trashed the claims of the study that said that circumcision reduces HIV.
http://www.plosone.org/article/fetcharti...

Worldwide circumcision rates:
http://www.circumstitions.com/maps.html...

And discussion of common circumcision benefit myths and discussion of all the risks that can develop over time and negative side effects (buried penis, meatal stenosis, etc):
http://forums.govteen.com/showpost.php?p...