My bf doesnt know how to kiss.?!
Question: My bf doesnt know how to kiss!.!?
Ok so i had my first kiss with my bf and while i thought it would be great it turned out to be something else!. He was way too intense, i could not keep up with his intensity, he was way too hard and deep and by the end of it he was licking my chin also!. I dont know if i am a bad kisser or if he is or maybe he was too turned on!. I just couldnt keep up with him!. What would you advise!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Simply tell him to slow down!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to tell him what you just said!. He obviously does not understand what a women likes!. Let him know it would feel better for you if he slowed down some and softened those kisses!. It's not you that's the bad kisser and if you don't tell him, he's gonna keep the same bad kissing routine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds like one of the nasty kisses from "Not another teen movie"!. Not sensual at all and chin licking should never come into play!. It sounds like he was trying to ball all of his pent up sexual energy into a kiss!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Ask him to ease it a bit!.
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when u start just say okay lets take it slow!. or wear less seductive clothes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Actually,
Males are terrible at this!. The reason is that its never anything we practice!. What do I mean !? Well - Its hard to imagine a 20 year old who doesn't know how to masturbate, let alne do it with great skill!.
Why !?
Practice!. Many boys start as early as 5 years old if they are intact, and maybe even as early as 10 or 12 if they had their foreskin removed!.
So by the time they are 20 they have had anythere from 10 to 15 years of practice!. At the same time girls were for the most part ( un-known territory) - during much of this time!.
Playing with dools and making Ken kiss Barbbie was simply out of the question!. The solution is practice, because even at my age I suck at this!.
Keep in mind that I am a pro elsewhere!. Each girl likes it different too!. Making this skill a moving target of sorts!.
Being intact I can please a girl with great ease !
Almost without trying!. Yet ask me to succeed at a kiss, and I get a "C" or if I really try I might get a "C+" at best!.
Boys simply do not grow up kissing things!. We run when our mom tries this stunt ! And heck ! Girls had Koodies then too, don't forget!. Not sure if I spelled that right but, you get the drift here!.
In an interesting twist!.!.!. Porn has had a foul reputation with women!. Mostly because they feel their males prefer looking at other women!.
Its a jealousy thing for the most part!. Makes the females feel like they are not enough!.
However !
I sould add that boys might be good at masturbation, but they are also almost clueless on how to please a girl ! In fact 99 percent of the girls fustration is due to lack of knowledge!.
A boy for most of his years has never even seen a girls!.!.!.!. Well!.!.!. You know!.!.!. I mean its really hidden and from a distance can even look like just a line!. If there is hair then they see even less!.
Playboy pictures and Hustler and porn movies all serve to teach us how!. Yes!.!.!. Even you girls benefit from this!.
I mean its not like you can just go ask your mom how to suck on a penis or anything!. YOu can't ask your teacher this either!. Despite all the hype about sex education!. The United States is the worst country in the world when it comes to this!. Even out parents don't know how to react properly to this sort of thing!.
The only this available is porn!. Yet is carries addictive qualities as well!. This was pointed out to me before, and I happen to agree with the Yahoo member who pointed it out!.
Like drinking or drugs I suppose anything can be abused!. Still the lesson here is he needs to know how!. He could be uncertain how to do this!. I might add that his performance elsewhere might suffer even more if first base is so lacking!.
His friends will not help at all!. Most guys would never even consider asking that form their peers!. They need to constantly put on the show of knowing how everything is done!.
My guess is that the best thing to do is to teach him my dear!.!.!.!. And to do so in a very gentle way!. You know !.!.!. Don't slam him down!.!.!.!.!. Just say ,,,, Hey!.!.!.!. This is how I like to do it!.!.!.!.
I am not promoting porn here either!.!.!. I want to make this clear, but I can tell you that I did not even know what a girls ( thingy ) even looked like!. I was later amazed to find it look exactly like a smaller version of us males!.
We are very much alike in this respect!. Keep in mind that I was a young lad many moons ago!. Today I can make any girl blast of to the moon!. And yes!.!.!. I owe this to learning from the porn movies I would watch at my friends house!. Usually when the girlfriends were away!. I mean we knew they frowned on it and stuff!. Still the informationwas vital to me!.
Like I said!.!.!. Practice makes perfect!. So for the kissing thing you might actually try looking for a place where your other friends are also kissing in public!.!.
A local ice cream shop, the theater, or park!.
Anyplace he can see other males doing it correctly!. Remember males are visual !
I hope this helps you understand why it is so!.
That is always the first step into solving a particular problem!.
In general porn movies are not that good at the kissing part so instead look for an old classic!. Perhaps ( Love Story ) or something similar!.!.!.
Try to keep kisses short in duration at first too!. A mistake is less expressed when its short in duration!. As a final point!.!.!. If you don't like a form of kiss!. Return it to him and see what he says!.!.!. Soetimes knowing what it feels like is the best teacher of :
( I don't like this )
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Males are terrible at this!. The reason is that its never anything we practice!. What do I mean !? Well - Its hard to imagine a 20 year old who doesn't know how to masturbate, let alne do it with great skill!.
Why !?
Practice!. Many boys start as early as 5 years old if they are intact, and maybe even as early as 10 or 12 if they had their foreskin removed!.
So by the time they are 20 they have had anythere from 10 to 15 years of practice!. At the same time girls were for the most part ( un-known territory) - during much of this time!.
Playing with dools and making Ken kiss Barbbie was simply out of the question!. The solution is practice, because even at my age I suck at this!.
Keep in mind that I am a pro elsewhere!. Each girl likes it different too!. Making this skill a moving target of sorts!.
Being intact I can please a girl with great ease !
Almost without trying!. Yet ask me to succeed at a kiss, and I get a "C" or if I really try I might get a "C+" at best!.
Boys simply do not grow up kissing things!. We run when our mom tries this stunt ! And heck ! Girls had Koodies then too, don't forget!. Not sure if I spelled that right but, you get the drift here!.
In an interesting twist!.!.!. Porn has had a foul reputation with women!. Mostly because they feel their males prefer looking at other women!.
Its a jealousy thing for the most part!. Makes the females feel like they are not enough!.
However !
I sould add that boys might be good at masturbation, but they are also almost clueless on how to please a girl ! In fact 99 percent of the girls fustration is due to lack of knowledge!.
A boy for most of his years has never even seen a girls!.!.!.!. Well!.!.!. You know!.!.!. I mean its really hidden and from a distance can even look like just a line!. If there is hair then they see even less!.
Playboy pictures and Hustler and porn movies all serve to teach us how!. Yes!.!.!. Even you girls benefit from this!.
I mean its not like you can just go ask your mom how to suck on a penis or anything!. YOu can't ask your teacher this either!. Despite all the hype about sex education!. The United States is the worst country in the world when it comes to this!. Even out parents don't know how to react properly to this sort of thing!.
The only this available is porn!. Yet is carries addictive qualities as well!. This was pointed out to me before, and I happen to agree with the Yahoo member who pointed it out!.
Like drinking or drugs I suppose anything can be abused!. Still the lesson here is he needs to know how!. He could be uncertain how to do this!. I might add that his performance elsewhere might suffer even more if first base is so lacking!.
His friends will not help at all!. Most guys would never even consider asking that form their peers!. They need to constantly put on the show of knowing how everything is done!.
My guess is that the best thing to do is to teach him my dear!.!.!.!. And to do so in a very gentle way!. You know !.!.!. Don't slam him down!.!.!.!.!. Just say ,,,, Hey!.!.!.!. This is how I like to do it!.!.!.!.
I am not promoting porn here either!.!.!. I want to make this clear, but I can tell you that I did not even know what a girls ( thingy ) even looked like!. I was later amazed to find it look exactly like a smaller version of us males!.
We are very much alike in this respect!. Keep in mind that I was a young lad many moons ago!. Today I can make any girl blast of to the moon!. And yes!.!.!. I owe this to learning from the porn movies I would watch at my friends house!. Usually when the girlfriends were away!. I mean we knew they frowned on it and stuff!. Still the informationwas vital to me!.
Like I said!.!.!. Practice makes perfect!. So for the kissing thing you might actually try looking for a place where your other friends are also kissing in public!.!.
A local ice cream shop, the theater, or park!.
Anyplace he can see other males doing it correctly!. Remember males are visual !
I hope this helps you understand why it is so!.
That is always the first step into solving a particular problem!.
In general porn movies are not that good at the kissing part so instead look for an old classic!. Perhaps ( Love Story ) or something similar!.!.!.
Try to keep kisses short in duration at first too!. A mistake is less expressed when its short in duration!. As a final point!.!.!. If you don't like a form of kiss!. Return it to him and see what he says!.!.!. Soetimes knowing what it feels like is the best teacher of :
( I don't like this )
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com