Help! my bf doesnt like hardcore sex?!
Question: i love hardcore sex till the point it starts hurtin me ....ive told this to him once but he doesnt like such stuff like fisting and tieing me up and hurting me during sex..his idea about sex is very traditional but im always willing to experiment new positions and stuff like that...we havent had sex since like the past 6 or 7 months and i want real bad... i dont know how to convince him? everytime i talk about it..we end up fighting
Answers: i love hardcore sex till the point it starts hurtin me ....ive told this to him once but he doesnt like such stuff like fisting and tieing me up and hurting me during sex..his idea about sex is very traditional but im always willing to experiment new positions and stuff like that...we havent had sex since like the past 6 or 7 months and i want real bad... i dont know how to convince him? everytime i talk about it..we end up fighting
wow.
girl i feel ya on the hard core sex.
you both have to give in a realtionship.
try stuff with deep intercourse.
could be a little more hard core but at the same time triditional for him.
You're sick.
maybe you should try some therapy....
That's probably not what he's into.
How do you enjoy hardcore sex?????
ask him why
You're both not in the same place at all! Perhaps you need to find another chap who is on your wavelength and leave this one to his traditional ways. I can't see how you'll ever be able to meet half way and be truly satisfied.
.. dump him.. and find a new guy.. !!!!
that sucks for you.. [fisting really ouch !!!]
If he isn't into it, you can't force him.
The two of you are sexually incompatible. If hard sex is this important to you, do you both a favor and break up with him and move on.
Get a new boyfriend as weird as you!!
You need another bf because you are not happy with this bf
Are you a guy or girl?
ill take care of u, ill break ur cookie in ******* half
you shold ring the nutty shelter and as them for advice.... weirdo!
If only we could get together.... Idaho Boy here.
sounds like you'd fit right in at a porn shoot.....try not being such a whore, and maybe he'll give it to you....since you want real bad....caveman
I could understand someone not being thrilled if it's really "hard core", where they show the close up details over and over and over.
you probly should find someone who likes to do mostly the same things.
I can sort of relate to how you feel.
Maybe its a problem if you really want someone to hurt you though.
I can understand the excitment from experimenting and mild spanking or whatever.
Don't hurt each other though.
find someone who satisfies your freaky desires. your current boyfriend does not share your likes and even if you can convince him to play along he'll never be completely comfortable.
ur vvveeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyyy bad friend
u r jerk
your boy freind very good boy
badgirl
somethings not adding up right!!..
u guys def dont have a good sexual chemistry and if you two havent effed in that long ... idk thats really weird! i can see 6 or 7 hours, even days but not months. u should move on. its not like ull be missing out on consistent sex..that already aint happening.
get down and dirty! but remember..dont spread diseases! wear a condom :)
rock on
You can't convince someone to practice something that "sounds" gruesome....even though it is normal for you to want to experience something different. Try by introducing something that you both like and enjoy together. If you feel unsatisfied then you need to find a medium that will full fill your needs. That is up to you and you only.
Sounds like you are both incompatible sexually... Find someone else and dump him (I mean, dump him then find someone else. LOL.) Good luck though!
you may have to wrap your mind around the fact that this is who he is. like you, i like different, more hardcore stuff than my wife. the thing is i think it is beyond what they can do. if you have talked, and he hasnt met your request, he likely isnt going to. now you have to decide what you do from here. do you love him enough to accept and love him as he is? is this stuff so important that you can't be happy without it? after you've talked, you've done all that can be done. now you have some choices to make about your relationship. in the end, in my mind sex is a small part of things. once i accepted her as she was, and stopped trying to change her, i was okay. fantasy drives this stuff, and i found in my case facing reality allowed me to prosper and accept what we had.
Knowing your ages would help. If your sexual appetites are that far apart, I don't see this relationship working. You don't want to pressure him into doing something, he's not comfortable with. If he is having a problem with the type of sex you want(bondage, S&M), then you have to respect his feelings. He might have a big problem "hurting" you. Maybe he has a trust issue. A lot of guys get falsely accused of rape and abuse. As much as I would love to have my husband haul me over his knee once in a while, I have to "stage" it and tell him what I want. Even then, he's not really into it. Don't force the issue with him. If you want a relationship with this guy and he feels the same about you, perhaps counseling would help.
Compromise is always the key. However, there is nothing traditional about not having sex in 6 or 7 months. Traditional can be every night or even twice a day. Please don't confuse the two. If he's just not that much into sex and you are you better part ways now. He's not going to develop a desire for it later.
sounds like an imcompatibility between you two... find someone new.
Well if he's not into that kind of stuff, and you really are, then if you can't come to a compromise then maybe you should find someone who does like that sort of thing.
dump that zero and get yourself a hero...I mean...who doesnt love fisting?
Woooo time to break up, my dear! If you have such a strong sexual appetite, and he has the passion of a wet noodle, then you're simply not sexually compatible. While sex is definitely not everything in a relationship, if it bothers you enough to ask for help/advice on here, then there's a problem. I'm sure you've talked to him - calmly, not making him feel bad or go on the defense, not pressuring him - but if he still won't budge at least a little bit, then he's not respecting your wishes or desires. Relationships - and sex - are two-way; both partners need to be willing to compromise now and then if they not only love their partner but care enough to show it, in whatever way that may be.
You two just don't seem like a good fit. You may have great emotional chemistry and all that, but the way he handles your differences in sex sounds like he may not be all he's cracked up to be boyfriend-wise. He may be a great guy, but you deserve to be with the right guy FOR YOU. If you really, honestly can't imagine living your life w/out him or with anyone else, you may have to just suck it up and masturbate yourself hardcore. Otherwise, if you're considering marriage, your differences will just get worse. You say you haven't had sex with him for the past 6-7 months??? Unacceptable, and you know this; do you want to have a sexless marriage? You're already having a sexless relationship....
Please consider moving on from him. Nothing against him, everyone has their tastes and libidos, but like I said, you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy in every blissful way imaginable! Good luck!
trick him, or rape him? that would be kinda hardcore.