How to suggest to your man...?!
Question: that he might need viagra without hurting his feelings or making things worse? He tends to lose the erection in the middle of intercourse. He had testicular cancer two years ago, so I know the probable cause, but we're trying to have a baby and it's really frustrating. Not to mention unsatisfying.
Answers: that he might need viagra without hurting his feelings or making things worse? He tends to lose the erection in the middle of intercourse. He had testicular cancer two years ago, so I know the probable cause, but we're trying to have a baby and it's really frustrating. Not to mention unsatisfying.
The direct approach may SEEM like a good idea, but the huge majority of such issues are in the MIND - not the penis.
Assuming his vascular system is A-OK, and if he's getting a good hard erection at all, then that's probably the case, there are other reasons for him to droop during sex - and most of them are mental.
If that's the case (and it's statistically probable), pointing out your awareness of the issue may be the worst thing you can do.
You're better-off taking different directions, based on assuming the mental-side of things FIRST, and if that doesn't produce joy then go for other things, no harm done.
Suggestions:
1. "Wanting a baby" is often perceived by the male as PRESSURE, and any kind of mental pressure is the anti-erection. I've had clients wanting to conceive, where the man says his sex life has degenerated into the one-word command: "Mount!" Believe it or not, mood can be important to men, too.
2. Under the "pressure" category, have you considered that having had cancer could give him pause in the making of baby. He may be thinking about "what if" - and worrying about supporting baby "in case"...
For pressure, issues, I perscribe ROMANCE.
Do whatever will rev him up. Play with him a bit - tease that little love-muscle a while, but don't let it finish. Get him bursting at the seams before you get into the "feature attraction".
3. Another suggestion is to "go with it" when he droops. COMPLIMENT him on his "staying power" and savor the roller-coaster of sensation. He probably feels the droop, too, and it's probably really doing a number on his mind. Make a game of it - compliment that he's so comfortable with you. Pause for a little playful time. Give him a squeeze and generally turn it back into foreplay. USE the "symptom" to prolong your love-making - and to return to the LOVE part of that.
4. Whatever you already know, or suspect, or can discover "fires his rockets" - and crank up the hotness. Every relationship can use this from time to time. Spend some time teasing you both - and get the activity playful.
I'll bet you lunch that if you experiment with this you'll find the joy you're looking for.
Good luck
Get him the guide on Mistermanpower.com, it might work.
Good luck and God bless
well, since you're trying to have a child, I'm assuming you have a healthy, well-established relationship. Just an assumption, and we all know how those can get you into trouble. . .lol. But seriously. . .talk to the dude. Suggest Viagra. . .or Cialis (longer window of effectiveness). He knows it's a problem, too. . .even if he hasn't said anything. And THAT could be part of the problem--anxiety only worsens it. Talk to him and let him know that you're in it together and just try to have FUN (gasp--FUN sex??!!) when you're having sex. NO PRESSURE!!! That really is a big part of it. If you let on that it's "unsatisfying," it will definitely make him even more self-conscious. Just be there for him--sounds like he's been through a lot already (you, too, if you were with him through the cancer).
well, just sit down and have a heart to heart and go with him...that should help
Honey, to be able to satisfy you sexually he should be willing to try anything. I know I love to completely satisy a lady and give her many orgasms. I'm only 22 and can ejaculate twice on the same erection and be ready to go again in a few. He needs to be told that he needs to satisfy you in every way. Let him know this in a nice way.