Help me help him!! Please How do you help someone who doesn't admit they have a !

Help me help him!! Please How do you help someone who doesn't admit they have a problem?

I know that this question has been asked many times, but the answer is different for everyone. My boyfriend is a true alcoholic. We were together for a couple years and broke up because of his drinking ( I was pregnant with our child). We got back together 6 months ago. When he asked to get back together he told me that his drinking had slowed because of his care for our child. Now I can see that it hasn't. He has to drink from the time that he gets off of work until he passes out and on the weekends he starts drinking by noon. He is not violent (yet) when he drinks. I'm just very concerned for him because his whole family is full of alcoholics and they drink themselves into alot of debt. He never has money and works at a very highly paying job. He doesn't think that he has a problem and will not admit it. He keeps asking me to marry him & move back in together, but I keep telling him that I will not until the drinking slows. Also he always makes excuses for his drinking

I've lived with the same thing. You have to choose what you want your child exposed to. I know you can't take his legal rights away to see his child, but you are telling your child it is okay to behave that way when you openly share this relationship. If he truely loves you then he eventually will see what it will take to have you. You can't tell an alcoholic to slow down, he has to stop... Prove he can maintain himself without a drink. Eventually you may feel comfortable with him drinking an occassional drink, but that can be years. My husband believed I was just psycotic when I called him an alcoholic (he never hit me either, just ignored me and the kids). It took two years of telling him he had a problem, until he hit a tree one night, then he came to realization. In order to stay in the house he had to explain to our children what happene to him and his car, attend AA meetings and pour out his beer with his kids watching. Nothing is perfect. Everyone is different. I'm still not at the end of my road with this man. I did get him on anti-depresents two months ago and everything else seems to have fallen into place since then. Good luck trying to figure yours out!