Personality and social problems?!

Personality and social problems?

I have different personalities. When i am with my brother, we can be ourselves and talk a lot. We have created different personalities (i.e. a rich french guy, bodyguard, etc..). So I change to one personality and my brother changes to another and we can talk about anything. But whenever I go somewhere and see people, I cant talk. For some reason I cant click. My personality changes to a very serous one. I just sit and stare into space and listen to other people. Should I see a psychologist?

You sound normal, intelligent, and interesting. If you wanted to work through gaining some confidence with others with a counselor, they could help you build social skills and tactics so you are more comfortable, but it makes sense that you would be yourself more easily with your brother than you would with others.

Talking and socializing is a skill some of us come by naturally and some of us have to work on. The best way to begin is by acting interested in what others are saying, rephrasing what was said, maybe asking questions about what they said, etc.

People like it when others act interested in what they are saying. Plus, it gets the focus off you. If you goof up and feel uncomfortable, don't sweat it. The world won't end. Everyone feels like that sometimes. Sorry. You are a human. None of us are perfect.

What I am saying, is that if you are uncomfortable or embarrassed, know that it is normal. Just go on anyway.

No one expects you to get up and be the star attraction. Build your confidence. Start small. Praise yourself.

You sound both normal and smart. You can be who you want to be when you want to be.

Take it on one little step at a time. Look at other people's body posture, facial expressions, etc. If you are feeling self-conscious or anxious, then you don't have enough to do. Ask questions, focus on something else, know that just because you don't feel confident, no one else knos this. Fake it til you make it.

This is your life. It is your choice to act how you want, make mistakes and learn from them, and be who you want to be. Picture where you are going and start going there.

If you need some help doing it, then by all means see a counselor, but don't think it means there is something wrong with you. The counselor is just a tool to use to get you where you want to go. We all need a hand sometimes. That is just human.

Have fun. Say nice things to yourself. Don't criticize. Live. Laugh. Enjoy.

Hope this helps. Good luck to you.