Best friend thinks im crazy for self harming but i don't understand her bul!

Question: Best friend thinks im crazy for self harming but i don't understand her bulimia/anorexia?

I've told my best friend all about my self harm because i feel like i can only trust her with this because maybe if i get it off my chest i won't feel so guilty! But she use to be supportive and now shes like "Oh god sake, you're so stupid honestly! Why don't you just kill yourself because that's what it looks like your doing?! Anyway you cant be addicted cause you don't cut deep enough! You pathetic tw@t" and it makes me feel worse and useless! But then shes shoving her fingers down her throat when she eats and barely eats at all! But i don't understand this and i've questioned her and read up on it but i still don't understand her behaviour, but have read it ups a form a self harm, yet she doesn't believe this and refuses to look it up. But shes calling me stupid, strange, idiotic, pathetic and names for cutting into my self (self harm by cutting) yet shes puking up and starving herself (self harm by starvation) Im getting really fed up with her abusive ways and nastiness. How can i feel better about myself and stop for good with her telling me im stupid and worthless because i self harm in a different way to her?

Answers:

christ.. no offence but she doesn't sound like a friend. Friends don't insult you, particularly about something that must have been very difficult to confide. Sounds like she has issues, though, and is also hurting. Eating disorders, as with many other mental health issues, are difficult to understand if you've not experienced them. Also self-harm is a coping mechanism rather than a sign that somebody is suicidal. The mental pain somebody is experiencing doesn't directly relate to the physical pain they inflict. It's your decision how you cut, don't let anybody else make you feel guilty about it. Alternatives to self-harm include less damaging coping mechanisms, some may require learning new ways of thinking and dealing with problems, others are things designed to imitate self-harm like squeezing ice cubes or scribbling with a red pen.. Is there a counsellor or somebody at school (sorry, don't know how old you are) or another perhaps more encouraging friend who you could talk to about this?

The stupid ***** isn't your friend if she judges you like that

experience

they are both bad ways to cope and you should both get some help, in regards to her, if she isnt gonna be supportive of you - you shouldnt be supportive of her

you are both being stupid. don't damage your bodies like this, you are only young and they will BOTH leave scars, some physically but definitely mentally. stop this before it gets any worse please!

No, it's because her way doesn't leave permanent scars.

I thought she was trying to get thin and hates the fact that the food might leave fat n crap, but really use it as a form of control for depression or similar in side her and you cut to relieve pressure or regain control yeah? If im right ( I dought it in your eyes) then you need to stay away from each other cause she will f@ck you up even more, cause she thinks that her problems are worse than yours, which is also not good for her too!

Ketchup please... no no BBQ!

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