Is this just anger off of stress/bottled upinside stress or what?!
Question: Is this just anger off of stress/bottled upinside stress or what?
my nephew is staying here as he has nowhere else to go.........it's been actully off and on for a couple of years........ i guess because he lives in a small town and theirs a lack of jobs ( Im moving soon though and arent from here) and once in a blue moon i just cant take it anymore when him and my mother start yelling at each other and drama starts or if he keeps forgetting to turn lights trough out the house on causing my parents a great amount of money to pay the light bill then i will just LASH out cussing him and stuff.......most of the time when i feel im gonna loose control though i run outside or call 9/11 and tell them im suicidal and i eventully calm down from their....i just wish he'd hurry up and get on his feet so he can have his own place and do whatever he wants and i can move and live my life. overall he's a great/nice/caring guy and after i just lashed out my mom said he just had baught me pizza from the little money he had.i automaticly calmed down and now i kind of feel heart broken that that happend AGAIN. i dont want to start fights or drama with NOBODY i just want to move and get out of here and live my life with my future friends ECT and i just feel over preashured with him here but he's done so much for me i cant just make him feel bad.all the time i try to wait untill he's gone somewhere to talk to my mom about the stress. hes 20 im 17. what could this anger be coming from? and what do you think i should do? i know i can not take it with him here anymore and i cant stand my life right now and ima lready stressed about 1000 other things......sorry about it being so long but thanks to anybody who reads it. my goal is to get out of the south/bible belt small towns and into the real world where most people live.we are guys BTW.
am i a jerk? i try my best not to hurt his fellings and would want the same if i was homeless..........even though he has anger problems ( but so do i) i still shouldent of done that...i just cant take the food now i think he needs it more. hes always took up for me and stuff and tells me he loves me ect.i just cant hurt his fellings like this.i dont want to be a jerk
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