Why do people not give the same worth to childrens' mental health than adul!

i agree with you i have a 2 year old and do not smack or watever you wanna call ity as i believe that smacking a child is a form of bullying and also a form of child abuse not to mention the emotional hidden scars that comes with it

My parents smacked me, albeit rarely. I love them, and they love me.

I see many children whose parent's claim that smacking children is so wrong and all this, all the while their child is running amok and is terribly misbehaved.

The reality (in my personal experience) is that when children are very young they cannot rationalize the way an adult does. An assertive pop on the bottom keeps a child in line by a simple cause and effect reaction."

"I won't do X because it is wrong" does not enter a young child's mind.

"I won't do X because if I do, I will get a spank" most certainly does.

Once the child is a little older, they can begin to properly rationalize right and wrong and don't need that type of coercion.

And as an aside, my parents rarely spanked me. But they did it enough so that if they told me to quiet down, I knew that I better calm myself, or else. I never once feared them because they chose to discipline me....

Personal experience, take it as you will.

I've always kind of thought of spanking as being like a power tool. It can be an acceptable shortcut, but if you don't know how to use it safely, or are going to use it improperly or for the wrong job, then it's better to never crack it out in the first place.

Many, many people use that "spare the rod" line to justify what amounts to abuse. But I also personally know people who were spanked as children and have suffered no ill effects from it. A lot of how the child reacts depends on whether it was delivered in a chaotic and angry way, how hard it was, whether it was dished out for genuine misbehavior or for mistakes or even at random, etc..

Keep in mind, some kids just will NOT respond to time-outs, lectures, or taking away the video games. When a kid is strong-willed and extremely young, they do not have the impulse control to stop themselves based on either reasoning or morality. Spanking is a last resort, but I honestly feel that for some kids it's needed. It all comes down to knowing your child, knowing yourself and whether you're likely to go over the top, and always making sure the punishment fits the "crime".

Spare the rod spoil the child. U must not be a parent and if you r ur a shitty one who's children drink, party, and slut around. You can't raise a child without them having some fear of their actions. Grounding just doesn't work with most children and that's what's proven with society these days. I'll take one look at a 22 year old and tell u what type of parents they had and what their disciplinary actions were. Your wrong, keep ur opinions to urself and don't act as if they r facts because they're not. Parent disciplining has decreased tremendously over the last few decades and look at what the u.s is like, 12 year olds pregnant all the time, almost all girls r sluts, and most would rather go drink and get high than spend time with their family. It's pathetic and it all begins with parent discipline