How do I tell my doctor I'm depressed with my mom in the room?!


Question: How do I tell my doctor I'm depressed with my mom in the room!?
I've been feeling symtoms of depression for a couple of years now!. I'm feeling very suicidal, I hate my life, and I have no friends!. I want to get help with this!. I'm 16 years old, so my mom can still come in the room when I go to the doctor!. She's always accompied me to all of my doctor's visits and she'll get mad if I don't want her in the room!.

I want to tell my doctor I'm depressed and suicidal, but I know my mom will probably down-play and act like I'm just going through a 'stage'!.

I've tried telling my parents I'm depressed and suicidal but both of them won't listen!. They thinkI'm' stuck-up, greedy, and only care for myself!. They keep misinturpreting what I mean when I say I'm lonely and depressed!.

Do you have any ideas on how I can get my parents to understand what I'm going through, or, how I can tell my doctor I'm depressed in front of my mom!?
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my daughter went through this!. I would suggest that you just ask your mom, at your next doctors appointment if you may speak to the doctor alone!. make sure you ask respectfully!.
Also, you may consider asking the doctor, even in front of your mother, if you might speak to him/ her alone!.

I do , however, warn you to be careful of the modern pharmaceutical remedies for depression- often the side effects can be worse than what it is supposed to be treating!.

My daughters depression was partly rooted in her diet (she has food allergies that were not diagnosed for a long time) and we live in an area where we go through periods of very little sunlight!.

Her doctor put her on a vtamin D supplement and gave her an herbal antidepressant (not for permanant use) called Deproloft!.

Since we took her off of the offending foods and she has been taking the vitamin D she has been doing extremely well !.

As a mom, I can tell you , it is hard for me, my daughter is 16, no longer a child but not quite an adult!. I want to go into the doctors office with her to keep abreast of what is going on, to be informed and to help as much as possible!. It is hard not to take it personally when your child says, I want to do this by myself, or I don't need you in here - it feels like being shut out - it is hard for her to remember I am not trying to be controlling or nosy and for me to remember that she is learning to be independent and is not trying to exclude me!.

You might suggest a compromise which works well for me and my daughter, I allow her to go in and talk to the doctor without me and then, I will go in for the last part and listen to the doctors suggestions and talk about how I can work together with my daughter to better her healthWww@Answer-Health@Com

Although your mother should know how you are feeling, if you don't feel comfortable discussing it in front of her, it is perfectly acceptable to ask her to leave the room for a few minutes!. Or, you can speak with your school counselor, and he/she can make some suggestions to make you feel more comfortable discussing the situation with your parents!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

When you are in the room with the doctor and your mom, ask that she leave for a moment!. Or can you speak to them in private by asking quietly!?

Have you actually tried asking your mom to wait for you!?

Or heck, just bring it out with both of them in the room!. The doc should be able to tell your mom to be quiet so you can explain your feelings!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Give your doctor a note or a letter and tell him/her that your parents won't believe you!.
Best wishes~Www@Answer-Health@Com

i would have a serious talk with your parents about your feelingsWww@Answer-Health@Com

tell him you want to talk him alone about somethingWww@Answer-Health@Com

personally I think you should either ask your mother to wait outside for like 5 mins, write a letter to the doc and ask him to not say anything or just tell both your mom and the doc at the same time how you are feeling!. You need to tell someone who can help you and if you tell the doc (even if your mom is listening) he will help you!. He has to!. He made an oath to help people in need!. You may just be a teenager but she can't down play what you say if you say it in front of the doc too!.

I guess my advice for you is to just tell the doc with your mom in the room!. If she starts to down play what you are saying look the doc in the face and tell him straight on how you feel!. How you feel so depressed and how you feel suicidal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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