In these circumstances of mine, would you give up?!
Question: In these circumstances of mine, would you give up!?
im 30, endured a hard miserable misfortunate life, have a criminal history, a psychiatric history, have borderline personality and ptsd, missed out on everything in life ; forming relationships, being employed , qualifications etc!.
i live alone in a small one bedroom apartment in england , i own nothing except a computer!.
iam presently waiting to be refered to a local resource centre where they do activities because theres no DBT or individual psychotherapy in my area!.
they assessed me for group therapy and said i wasnt ready for intense group therapy because i still have alot of problems with aggression and ive been isolated for so long, to start group therapy in large groups, 5 days a week would be too much and challenging!.!.
pretty crap if you ask me , inadequete mental health system that is aloof to me and gives me the ' run around '!.
i have no social support network because ive never made realatiships in life because of so many problems , i only have my mother whos aging and a few online friends!.
most are never around!.
inspite of my extreme misfortune i hate to be pittied or felt sorry for a treated as inferior!.
inspite of my misfortune and disadvantages my only goals left are to leave, emigrate from england, to live somewhere by a quiet coastal village!.
ive always been vain person and was once a cute kid, today i live in lonely isolation waiting for therapy , reliant upon the services for help!.!.!.!.!.no real social support network, because ive never built one up!.
today i have physical disabilities imperfections ; a injured ankle, with torn ankle ligaments that i will need an operation on!. i sprained it running in a meadow!.
2 missing teeth, ( front , bottom row) , i headbutted a concrete wall yearsago!.
i need to save for implants!.
a crooked little finger due to an injury years back, it droops over, it didnt straighten with a splint , looks like ill have to pay privatly if i want it straightened , which cost alot of money!.
damaged nerves in my right knuckle on my right hand through punching a wall, i can use it normally, but it hurts to hit a punch bag - i was told nothing can be done to fix the damage nerves!.!.!.!.!.!.!.looks like ill have to pay privatly again!.
cracked, torn skin on the head of my penis, was told thers no skin disorder by dermatologist, still not happy , so im waiting on a 3rd opinion by a professor - the skin is cracked and fissured , like the surface of RIPPED HAM you see in packets!. - i was told excessive masturbation could of caused it!.!.
im out of shape after being inactive for so long, and not going out because of bad anxiety, rage problems and disocociation , spacing out!.
my facial skin has aged , i have a lived in look, i supect i might have vitiligo , i see white patches near my forehead!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.i was told to raise that concern with the skin professor for the 3rd opinion!.!.
i look tired , older than my age 30, have dark lines under eyes, look ugly!.!.!.!.!.!.look like a bucceneer pirate!.
i was once a cute, vain kid, with good looks, but now i look like a man that has been through hard times, worn down, prematurly aged!.!.
my only goals are to LEAVE ENGLAND , emigrate , with a good paying job - but that goal seems unobtainable and out of reach at my disadvantages!.!.
how am i supposed to get through this !? if it was you would you give up !?
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i live alone in a small one bedroom apartment in england , i own nothing except a computer!.
iam presently waiting to be refered to a local resource centre where they do activities because theres no DBT or individual psychotherapy in my area!.
they assessed me for group therapy and said i wasnt ready for intense group therapy because i still have alot of problems with aggression and ive been isolated for so long, to start group therapy in large groups, 5 days a week would be too much and challenging!.!.
pretty crap if you ask me , inadequete mental health system that is aloof to me and gives me the ' run around '!.
i have no social support network because ive never made realatiships in life because of so many problems , i only have my mother whos aging and a few online friends!.
most are never around!.
inspite of my extreme misfortune i hate to be pittied or felt sorry for a treated as inferior!.
inspite of my misfortune and disadvantages my only goals left are to leave, emigrate from england, to live somewhere by a quiet coastal village!.
ive always been vain person and was once a cute kid, today i live in lonely isolation waiting for therapy , reliant upon the services for help!.!.!.!.!.no real social support network, because ive never built one up!.
today i have physical disabilities imperfections ; a injured ankle, with torn ankle ligaments that i will need an operation on!. i sprained it running in a meadow!.
2 missing teeth, ( front , bottom row) , i headbutted a concrete wall yearsago!.
i need to save for implants!.
a crooked little finger due to an injury years back, it droops over, it didnt straighten with a splint , looks like ill have to pay privatly if i want it straightened , which cost alot of money!.
damaged nerves in my right knuckle on my right hand through punching a wall, i can use it normally, but it hurts to hit a punch bag - i was told nothing can be done to fix the damage nerves!.!.!.!.!.!.!.looks like ill have to pay privatly again!.
cracked, torn skin on the head of my penis, was told thers no skin disorder by dermatologist, still not happy , so im waiting on a 3rd opinion by a professor - the skin is cracked and fissured , like the surface of RIPPED HAM you see in packets!. - i was told excessive masturbation could of caused it!.!.
im out of shape after being inactive for so long, and not going out because of bad anxiety, rage problems and disocociation , spacing out!.
my facial skin has aged , i have a lived in look, i supect i might have vitiligo , i see white patches near my forehead!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.i was told to raise that concern with the skin professor for the 3rd opinion!.!.
i look tired , older than my age 30, have dark lines under eyes, look ugly!.!.!.!.!.!.look like a bucceneer pirate!.
i was once a cute, vain kid, with good looks, but now i look like a man that has been through hard times, worn down, prematurly aged!.!.
my only goals are to LEAVE ENGLAND , emigrate , with a good paying job - but that goal seems unobtainable and out of reach at my disadvantages!.!.
how am i supposed to get through this !? if it was you would you give up !?
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we all have our problems some with worse problems than you, you seem to pity yourself! pull yourself together, take it step by step, start slowly walking around the block for fresh air and exercise, start saving for things you want including cosmetic if you are vain! you can get help getting qualifications online for free if you are on benefits, it's never too late to learn! I know it's scary meeting new people and trying new things but we all have to do it or we would all just give up, life seems beyond repair sometimes when you look at the bad side but you are still young, you don't have a terrible, painful disease, you have your mum and online friends, you can turn your life around, only if you want to!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are at a make it or break it point in your life!. You need to do one of two things!.
Option 1: Stay in your apartment and long for the days that used to be and continue living the life you are obviously not happy with!.
or
Option 2: Realize you made some pretty bad decisions in your life (such as headbutting a wall) and some (not all) of the bad stuff in your life right now is consequences of those actions!. So in order to make your life better you need to make some pretty good decisions!. Starting now!. No excuses, no "society is holding me down", "I'm a victim of the system" or anything like that!. It's YOUR life!. YOU have control!. What you make of it is completely 100% up to you!. People have overcome much much much worse physical and emotional problems to live normal fully functioning lives, and a great deal of the worlds greatest people all throughout history are the ones with the worst problems to overcome!. So get your butt up and go do something great with your life!.!.!.and remember that the greatness you want to achieve is through your eyes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Option 1: Stay in your apartment and long for the days that used to be and continue living the life you are obviously not happy with!.
or
Option 2: Realize you made some pretty bad decisions in your life (such as headbutting a wall) and some (not all) of the bad stuff in your life right now is consequences of those actions!. So in order to make your life better you need to make some pretty good decisions!. Starting now!. No excuses, no "society is holding me down", "I'm a victim of the system" or anything like that!. It's YOUR life!. YOU have control!. What you make of it is completely 100% up to you!. People have overcome much much much worse physical and emotional problems to live normal fully functioning lives, and a great deal of the worlds greatest people all throughout history are the ones with the worst problems to overcome!. So get your butt up and go do something great with your life!.!.!.and remember that the greatness you want to achieve is through your eyes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No I would not give up, but WILL change my mental outlook!.
Ok, read this carefully!. U said u have a "criminal HISTORY", "psychiatric HISTORY" "missED out on things" etc!. See the operative word here!? These things are in the past!. They are not ur problems anymore!. Let them go from ur mind! Stop bothering urself with them anymore!
Then u've listed out all the physical imperfections of ur body!. Now can u please make another list of all the good, positive things in ur body!. I'm sure they include two arms, two legs, seeing, hearing, speaking normal, not suffering from any chronic pain, able to eat and breathe painlessly, able to go to the bathroom properly, even enjoy pleasant sensations such as nice sights, pleasant music, tasty food, nice feelings on ur skin etc!. Dont u think u can make a longer list out of the positive things than the negative ones!? Then why on earth are u focusing only on 2 milimetres of a crooked finger when u have such a large well functioning body!?!?!!!
Btw, I did not even think of feeling pity for u and think of u as inferior!. U know, I myself have been sufferring from a psychiatric disorder for 10 years(relatively symptom-free now)!. But I dont live in England, I live in a developing country in Asia!. Psychiatric support groups are unheard of here! Infact there is only one psychologist that I have heard of here for the whole country!. Basically what is done for psychiatris illnesses here is make us swallow tablets (or give injections) and either keep chronically in hospitals, or let us cope by ourselves the best we can! U at least have a social system who is there to look after ur welfare and have plans of admitting u for group therapy sessions with only a slight delay, and that delay is also made with ur welfare in mind!
Since u have a computer, 1 thing I can suggest for u is listen to talks by Ajhan Brahmavamso of Australia!. He'll give u a lot of insight to think, and will make u laugh too!
Finally, u urself said u were a cute boy, but now are a dependent man!. That proves to urself how things keep on changing in the world and in our life, doest it!? So doesn't that show u that things as they ar now in ur life, have an equal chance of turning the other (Positive, good) way too, if u let them!? Who knows, today's dependent man might turn out to be tomorrow's successful businessman/eligible bachelor or whatevr that is u want to be!!! :-)
All the best! Actually, u dont need it, cos u already have it, just not looking at it properly!! :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok, read this carefully!. U said u have a "criminal HISTORY", "psychiatric HISTORY" "missED out on things" etc!. See the operative word here!? These things are in the past!. They are not ur problems anymore!. Let them go from ur mind! Stop bothering urself with them anymore!
Then u've listed out all the physical imperfections of ur body!. Now can u please make another list of all the good, positive things in ur body!. I'm sure they include two arms, two legs, seeing, hearing, speaking normal, not suffering from any chronic pain, able to eat and breathe painlessly, able to go to the bathroom properly, even enjoy pleasant sensations such as nice sights, pleasant music, tasty food, nice feelings on ur skin etc!. Dont u think u can make a longer list out of the positive things than the negative ones!? Then why on earth are u focusing only on 2 milimetres of a crooked finger when u have such a large well functioning body!?!?!!!
Btw, I did not even think of feeling pity for u and think of u as inferior!. U know, I myself have been sufferring from a psychiatric disorder for 10 years(relatively symptom-free now)!. But I dont live in England, I live in a developing country in Asia!. Psychiatric support groups are unheard of here! Infact there is only one psychologist that I have heard of here for the whole country!. Basically what is done for psychiatris illnesses here is make us swallow tablets (or give injections) and either keep chronically in hospitals, or let us cope by ourselves the best we can! U at least have a social system who is there to look after ur welfare and have plans of admitting u for group therapy sessions with only a slight delay, and that delay is also made with ur welfare in mind!
Since u have a computer, 1 thing I can suggest for u is listen to talks by Ajhan Brahmavamso of Australia!. He'll give u a lot of insight to think, and will make u laugh too!
Finally, u urself said u were a cute boy, but now are a dependent man!. That proves to urself how things keep on changing in the world and in our life, doest it!? So doesn't that show u that things as they ar now in ur life, have an equal chance of turning the other (Positive, good) way too, if u let them!? Who knows, today's dependent man might turn out to be tomorrow's successful businessman/eligible bachelor or whatevr that is u want to be!!! :-)
All the best! Actually, u dont need it, cos u already have it, just not looking at it properly!! :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi,
No i dont think i would give up and i dont think you should either!. yes life has been unkind and unfair to you but you have some positive qualities i am sure!. try to be less harsh on yourself, i am sure there is so very much more to your life than we can imagine, so many experiences that have led you down the path to where you find yourself now!.
Your dreams are far reaching, it is everyones right to dream, whilst you do so you still have hope and thats positive!.
I do understand why you feel so low, i know other people in very very similar positions to you and i know how hard it is to get the mental health help you need, keep fighting for yourself, if you need help there are advocacy services avalable for free in the UK!.
try not to focus so much on your physical ailments, none of us is perfect, i have major scarring from mulitple surgeries, stretch marks from multiple pregnancies!.!.!.!.the list is endless :-) This doesnt make me any less of a person and i dont expect friends of family to judge me on my imperfections!. It sounds as if you have low self esteem, maybe someone can help you learn to see the good in yourself (pirates are rugged and we all know how attractive a rugged man can be !!)
sTAY STRONG, DONT GIVE UP BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT LIES JUST AROUND THE CORNER!. GOOD LUCK !Www@Answer-Health@Com
No i dont think i would give up and i dont think you should either!. yes life has been unkind and unfair to you but you have some positive qualities i am sure!. try to be less harsh on yourself, i am sure there is so very much more to your life than we can imagine, so many experiences that have led you down the path to where you find yourself now!.
Your dreams are far reaching, it is everyones right to dream, whilst you do so you still have hope and thats positive!.
I do understand why you feel so low, i know other people in very very similar positions to you and i know how hard it is to get the mental health help you need, keep fighting for yourself, if you need help there are advocacy services avalable for free in the UK!.
try not to focus so much on your physical ailments, none of us is perfect, i have major scarring from mulitple surgeries, stretch marks from multiple pregnancies!.!.!.!.the list is endless :-) This doesnt make me any less of a person and i dont expect friends of family to judge me on my imperfections!. It sounds as if you have low self esteem, maybe someone can help you learn to see the good in yourself (pirates are rugged and we all know how attractive a rugged man can be !!)
sTAY STRONG, DONT GIVE UP BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT LIES JUST AROUND THE CORNER!. GOOD LUCK !Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know exactly how you feel, mate don't give up, keep strong and be determined to get rid of all this negativity, go to your groups, do anything that will help you progress, do home college courses for the career you want, stick to your meds and once your stable you will feel better in yourself, and will be so glad you stuck to it
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I don't think you should give up, I think that you've got a very negative outlook on life and you're seeing your imperfections rather than your qualities!. You should talk to your doctor or health visitor or mental health visitor or someone who can help you!. What's stopping you from reaching your goals of getting a job you like!? It's sounds like you've made misguided or naive decisions in the past, so you'll have to work to get what you want, but there is nothing stopping you from trying!. It can't get any worse!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I give up very easily, and up until now I've got through!.
If I were in your shoes I perhaps wouldn't have done, so you deserve praise for being so strong up until now!.
You're a mess physically - a victim of both yourself and society, and I would like to give you sensible advice, though I am not in the position of doing so!.
You have rationalised your situation, which is good - rather than just thinking "I think I'll just end it" but you seriously need to get help!.
I think The Samaritans should be your first point of call!.
You're probably a great guy!. You just need someone to help you convince yourself that before you can move forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If I were in your shoes I perhaps wouldn't have done, so you deserve praise for being so strong up until now!.
You're a mess physically - a victim of both yourself and society, and I would like to give you sensible advice, though I am not in the position of doing so!.
You have rationalised your situation, which is good - rather than just thinking "I think I'll just end it" but you seriously need to get help!.
I think The Samaritans should be your first point of call!.
You're probably a great guy!. You just need someone to help you convince yourself that before you can move forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com