Help! I think my boyfriend has asperger's syndrome?!
Question: Help! I think my boyfriend has asperger's syndrome!?
I am very concerned with my live-in boyfriend!. We both work in the psych field and I am convinced he has asperger's syndrome!. He is 43, but had a very hard childhood physically and medically, resulting in being in the hospital for over a year, being in a body cast, and being home schooled, which has left him very self-conscious, but he thinks he hides it well, he doesn't!. Since I have known him, and in talking with other people who knew him first, he has always been the typical "social outcast"!. It is very awkward being with him around other people, he either goes completely silent, or talks about things he obsesses about (he is highly intelligent and speaks all the time of little trivia facts)!. The problem is, it would be said out of nowhere, and people don't know how to react to him!. He keeps a very vigorous routine at home, and is very stuck on things he is comfortable with!. (I just convinced him to hook his computer up to my DSL, he has been on Dialup)!. He claims to have tons of friends and people he knows, but I can count on one hand the times we have hung out with his friends in 2 years!. I hate going to social events with him, because everyone notices his odd behavior!. When I ask him about it, he denies it until he is blue in the face, making me think I am crazy!. I wouldn't have been surprised if he was diagnosed with something at one point, but he would never admit it to anyone!. He thinks we have the perfect soul mate relationship, but in truth, I know nothing about him!. He refuses to say anything about himself that he considers to be a vice!. In our relationship, he is too attached, told me he loved me before we even kissed, and sometimes I feel I am just there for him to "prove" to others that he can have a long term relationship!. I am scared to bring this up to him, for it would be to him the worst insult, and he would think I am the crazy one!. It is such a part of his personality that any constructive criticism is taken as death to him!. My main question!? How can I handle this and help him deal with these social situations, without him keeping the incessant denial up!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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you guys could try coupples counsoling, dont bring anything up about the disorder when he is there tho, talk to the counsoler in private and see what he thinks
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Open up to him and maybe he will open up to you more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I doubt he has it and nobody has known for this long!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you will sound like the crazy one if you say anything
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i have a friend who is like that!. maybe he knows he is socially awkward and probably can be diagnosed with something, but just wants to be accepted as normal, especially by you!. just telling him that he acts awkward wont really solve anything and it is hurtful!. i dont know how you can help that anyway!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The only real way to know for sure is to go to a licensed psychologist and get a WAIS-R test done!. It is THE definitive test to diagnose for all sorts of learning and developmental disabilities in adults!. And yes you can be diagnosed with such a thing as an adult!. I was!.Www@Answer-Health@Com