Whats the best way to deal with a suicide in the family?!
Question: Whats the best way to deal with a suicide in the family!?
My nan committed suicide over the weekend, to be honest i think i am in denial about the whole thing, as if she is still here!.
Whenever i think about it i just feel angry!. She's tried this a couple of times before and suffered from Bipolar!. I too suffer from Bipolar and i just feel such a hypocrite being angry with her because i know how hard living with it is!.
My aunt committed suicide 8 years ago, i think i was too young then for it to affect me as much but now losing my nan is making me unstable and it's easier for me to pretend it hasn't happened!.
I DON'T want to see a grief counsellor so please don't suggest this, i have enough people trying to tell me how to feel!.
I'd appreciate advise from people who have had a loved one commit suicide,
Thankyou!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whenever i think about it i just feel angry!. She's tried this a couple of times before and suffered from Bipolar!. I too suffer from Bipolar and i just feel such a hypocrite being angry with her because i know how hard living with it is!.
My aunt committed suicide 8 years ago, i think i was too young then for it to affect me as much but now losing my nan is making me unstable and it's easier for me to pretend it hasn't happened!.
I DON'T want to see a grief counsellor so please don't suggest this, i have enough people trying to tell me how to feel!.
I'd appreciate advise from people who have had a loved one commit suicide,
Thankyou!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I haven't lost someone close to me to suicide, but I have lost loved ones, and I was introduced to someone by a friend, and a week after I met him, he also committed suicide!.!.!. I can only say that losing anyone, for any reason is hard!. And you have to remember this wasn't your fault!. Just try to remember the good times you had with her, smile and laugh at the good memories, and try not to focus so much on the fact that she is no longer with you!.
It is going to be hard for a while, as it is any time you lose someone!. I know what you are going through, and I know that no matter what anyone says to try to comfort you, it is not going to be easy!. Try going to her favourite places!. If there is something that she wanted to do in her life, but never got a chance, maybe you could try it!. Like visiting another country or just doing something crazy that you know she would have loved to experience!. Doing the things that she loved will help you to feel closer to her, and to focus on the positive things!. It will help you to understand the person she was, her passions and interests in life, so you will be able to remember the positive, not focus on the negative!. I know you are probably in denial, but don't be afraid to grieve for your loss!.
I know I have a really hard time dealing with things like this, but the best advice that I can give you is that although it is healthy to move on, you need to deal with what has happened!. Don't be afraid to cry for her!. Bring her favourite flowers when you go to visit her at the cemetery when you are ready, and if you have somebody close that you can talk to, don't be afraid!. Other people are dealing with the same pain you are, and they can help you get through this difficult time!.
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It is going to be hard for a while, as it is any time you lose someone!. I know what you are going through, and I know that no matter what anyone says to try to comfort you, it is not going to be easy!. Try going to her favourite places!. If there is something that she wanted to do in her life, but never got a chance, maybe you could try it!. Like visiting another country or just doing something crazy that you know she would have loved to experience!. Doing the things that she loved will help you to feel closer to her, and to focus on the positive things!. It will help you to understand the person she was, her passions and interests in life, so you will be able to remember the positive, not focus on the negative!. I know you are probably in denial, but don't be afraid to grieve for your loss!.
I know I have a really hard time dealing with things like this, but the best advice that I can give you is that although it is healthy to move on, you need to deal with what has happened!. Don't be afraid to cry for her!. Bring her favourite flowers when you go to visit her at the cemetery when you are ready, and if you have somebody close that you can talk to, don't be afraid!. Other people are dealing with the same pain you are, and they can help you get through this difficult time!.
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pary for that person who lost life!.its just what has bound to happen!.u can't change it!.your crying won't bring her back!.once i wanted to kill myself then i met a girl who lost beloved one and that helped me reliaze may be some of my friend will really miss me if i kill myself even if my parents won't!.it is important for u to reliaze the lesson that u shouldn't do it!.thats important and what is in control of u!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
One of my mates took his life at the age of nineteen,not family i know but i would rather somebody take that way out than suffer!.Nobody can tell you how to feel that is a personal journal sorry to hear this be strong for yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com
A slipknot, it's quick and you wont feel a thing!.
See a grief counselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
See a grief counselor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Suicide is often extremely traumatic for the friends and family members that remain (the survivors), even though people that attempt suicide often think that no-one cares about them!. In addition to the feelings of grief normally associated with a person's death, there may be guilt, anger, resentment, remorse, confusion and great distress over unresolved issues!. The stigma surrounding suicide can make it extremely difficult for survivors to deal with their grief and can cause them also to feel terribly isolated!.
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Communication may be difficult because of family members
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