Self harm... 10 points best answer!?!
Question: Self harm!.!.!. 10 points best answer!!?
I'm 18 and have self harmed since 11/12 years old!. I don't tell anyone about it and have always kept it very private (trust me-i do NOT do it for attention)!.
I did tell a friend a few months ago and this friend has persuaded me to go to the doctor about it!. I went last week and am glad i did!.!.!.i know i can't carry on doing this forever as i'll end up with scars all over my body and it's generally just a rubbish thing to do!.!.!.i hate it!.
The thing is a drunk way too much on Friday night and some of my friends found out!. I have no idea how!.!.!.i either told them or they saw!. My parents also found out that night becasue my mum saw the cuts when i was changing!.
Today i just feel really bad about these people knowing!. I feel incredibly guilty, dirty and generally as though i'm a really 'bad' person!.
I don't know what to do!.!.!.!.i want them to understand but i can't talk about it!.
I just feel terrible about this whole situation!. What should i do!?!?
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I did tell a friend a few months ago and this friend has persuaded me to go to the doctor about it!. I went last week and am glad i did!.!.!.i know i can't carry on doing this forever as i'll end up with scars all over my body and it's generally just a rubbish thing to do!.!.!.i hate it!.
The thing is a drunk way too much on Friday night and some of my friends found out!. I have no idea how!.!.!.i either told them or they saw!. My parents also found out that night becasue my mum saw the cuts when i was changing!.
Today i just feel really bad about these people knowing!. I feel incredibly guilty, dirty and generally as though i'm a really 'bad' person!.
I don't know what to do!.!.!.!.i want them to understand but i can't talk about it!.
I just feel terrible about this whole situation!. What should i do!?!?
Please help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
OK so you probably feel like the world is crashing down on you all at once!. Dont worry you are not alone with this in this world!. If they are pressuring you , let them know that you will talk about it when you are ready!. There is no reason to feel guilty!. It is a problem and atleast you are seeking help!. They probably want to know why out of concern than anything!. The worst part is you probably dont even know for sure why yet!. Sometimes its just for the pain and to vent anger and sometimes its for the result of having something to take care of and tend to!.Seek yourself and figure out why!. Then maybe talking to your parents about will actually provide comfort also!. Im sure they are not your enemy!. As for your friends, you do not owe them any explanation, but unless they are really showing concern for you than let them know you will be alright and will talk about it when you are ready!. Good luck with this I wish you well!. Its not the end of the world even though it may feel like it!. You need to rid yourself of this burden!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you sed that your friend knows right!.!.!.!.well if he/she found out maybe you could get them to speak to your parents about the whole situation!.!.!.like when you first started and why you do it and stuff ! Dont feel ashamed about it most people do it!.!.!.!.just try to stop because it wont be very nice for your boy/girl friend to see!.!.!.!.or for your own health!Www@Answer-Health@Com
all you need is to be more open with people!.!.!. talk to your mom about it, but only ur mom!.!.!. not some psychiatrist!.!.!.!. wear some bright colours! read a book! GET OUT THERE!.!.!. it truely isn't worth it to waste your youth with self harm and such, you will realize this as you get olderWww@Answer-Health@Com
here is an anynonomous hotline # they can DEFINITLEY HELP!! you dont even have to give them your name!.even if you just want to talk!.thats what theyre there for!.!.good luck and god bless:) please give them a ring!.!.1-800-870-9998Www@Answer-Health@Com
admit to your friends and family that you have a problem and that you are trying to stop!. and why do you change in front of your mom!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
First thing to do is make up your mind to never do it again, and stick to it!. Then tell your parents and friends that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you should stay away from alchohol and its really not that embarassing!.!.!.!.!.!.!.anyway, you should go to a doctor to find out how they can help you and get medicineWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well f you cant talk about it to them you could write it all down its easier!.!.!.its good that you are getting help and your family and friends will support you!.!.!.goodluck xWww@Answer-Health@Com
i self harm and trying to stop read some anime or read eny fing try to push it to the back of ur head sorry im not much useWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you seeing a dr for it!.
The log your feelings in a journal and take it with you each time you go!. So you can show the dr how it was for you between appts!.
Try to saty away from drinking too much!. Or have a friend stay with you , to prevent this from happening while you are drunk and are sobering up!.
For the cuts and scars!. you can use salt water, NOT too much salt though!. To help cleanse the edges!. ( it does sting) The sting can telling you how bad pain feels and that you dont want to feel that again!.
also get an aloe plant!. The sap ( the gewy inside pulp!.) Has properities that help your body heal faster , and can visibly shrink scars down to managable sizes!. I used it to shrink my surgery scars to just thin lines!.
It you cant get the plant right now!. then get aloe lotion to use on your skin!. You can also use cocoa butter lotion, or straight Vitamin E gel caps!. or lotion, ( as they do sell the vitamin E gel in containers, It's different from the lotion!. It can also Shrink scars drastically!.
However by do that, it doesnt mean you can continue cutting!.
Eventually if you're not careful you could cut in the wrong place and bleed to death, or cause loss of motion by hitting a nerve or tendon!.
Ask yourself Why did you begin doing this at such a young age!.!? Is cutting really worth it all!.!?
Set goals for yourself!. Plant seeds to dreams!. Like finding someone to love and marry in the future, or to be able to wear a bikini without fear of the scars standing out too much!.
Visit my tuniabjc64 prayer cahin , When you feel discouraged and want to ask for prayers about it!. or to just ask prayer for strength to overcome the situation and find strength to beat it!. you dont have to explain it , as God knows it all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The log your feelings in a journal and take it with you each time you go!. So you can show the dr how it was for you between appts!.
Try to saty away from drinking too much!. Or have a friend stay with you , to prevent this from happening while you are drunk and are sobering up!.
For the cuts and scars!. you can use salt water, NOT too much salt though!. To help cleanse the edges!. ( it does sting) The sting can telling you how bad pain feels and that you dont want to feel that again!.
also get an aloe plant!. The sap ( the gewy inside pulp!.) Has properities that help your body heal faster , and can visibly shrink scars down to managable sizes!. I used it to shrink my surgery scars to just thin lines!.
It you cant get the plant right now!. then get aloe lotion to use on your skin!. You can also use cocoa butter lotion, or straight Vitamin E gel caps!. or lotion, ( as they do sell the vitamin E gel in containers, It's different from the lotion!. It can also Shrink scars drastically!.
However by do that, it doesnt mean you can continue cutting!.
Eventually if you're not careful you could cut in the wrong place and bleed to death, or cause loss of motion by hitting a nerve or tendon!.
Ask yourself Why did you begin doing this at such a young age!.!? Is cutting really worth it all!.!?
Set goals for yourself!. Plant seeds to dreams!. Like finding someone to love and marry in the future, or to be able to wear a bikini without fear of the scars standing out too much!.
Visit my tuniabjc64 prayer cahin , When you feel discouraged and want to ask for prayers about it!. or to just ask prayer for strength to overcome the situation and find strength to beat it!. you dont have to explain it , as God knows it all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Call your doctor as soon as you can and get SUPPORT/emotionally!. Ask him to get you into a SUPPORTIVE counseling group!.
We all do stupid things at stupid times!.!.but having ppl close to us, knowis the hardest thing to deal with and when you need the most support!.
You are not bad!.!.you simply need help with your own self love and image!.!.!.
bE PROUD that you want to stop, have sought help and are reaching out!.
tHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP!.
Exaplin to your parents(if you can) that you NEED their support and any shame or quilt they put on you makes it worse for you-not better!.
ASK THEM TO HELP you get thru this!.!.
If they donot or cannot!.!.seek other resources!.
I wish you well on your jurney and am so gald you see your own problem and want to stop!.
LASTLY STOP DRINKING!!!
It is a depressant!
Heartfelt support to you,
Nuse Andrea RNWww@Answer-Health@Com
We all do stupid things at stupid times!.!.but having ppl close to us, knowis the hardest thing to deal with and when you need the most support!.
You are not bad!.!.you simply need help with your own self love and image!.!.!.
bE PROUD that you want to stop, have sought help and are reaching out!.
tHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP!.
Exaplin to your parents(if you can) that you NEED their support and any shame or quilt they put on you makes it worse for you-not better!.
ASK THEM TO HELP you get thru this!.!.
If they donot or cannot!.!.seek other resources!.
I wish you well on your jurney and am so gald you see your own problem and want to stop!.
LASTLY STOP DRINKING!!!
It is a depressant!
Heartfelt support to you,
Nuse Andrea RNWww@Answer-Health@Com
everything happens for a reason and maybe its a good thing that you mum and friends found out, i hope that they are supportive and are able to help you through this- you made a great move by going to the doctors, it show that you have ackowledged that you have a problem and need help
dont feel bad or guilty or you may self harm again, just feel relieved that they know and can support you, if they ask you any questions just use the opportunity to tell them how you feel - dont bottle anything upWww@Answer-Health@Com
dont feel bad or guilty or you may self harm again, just feel relieved that they know and can support you, if they ask you any questions just use the opportunity to tell them how you feel - dont bottle anything upWww@Answer-Health@Com
You have done well in my opinion, you have arranged & been to see your Dr a bunch of freinds have found out which is no bad thing really, its out in the open now & finally your ma knows Im sure you may wish she didnt know but its a step in them understanding the real you & youre doing something positive about it!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.you know you arent bad, Ive never cut but have had extreme thoughts about it in the past again it wasnt a cry for help but it was an attempt for me to try & release the pain of anxiety i felt!.
Im glad you have this freind who encouraged you to see someone youve made the first steps & Im glad you have shared this with us here admitting a problem is the hardest thing sometimes before you move on & overcome it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im glad you have this freind who encouraged you to see someone youve made the first steps & Im glad you have shared this with us here admitting a problem is the hardest thing sometimes before you move on & overcome it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's normal to feel funny about others knowing our crazy , but don't worry about it to much, you're seeking a doctor's help, you're doing something about it ( come on those people saw you drunk , god knows what we do when we're drunk,O!.K!? Now focus on getting better and a regular visits to the doctor ,plus how to restore your precious skin to healing and looking better and better!. If some of your friends mention it just laugh alone and tell them "Wasn't that nuts!?!?iWww@Answer-Health@Com
sometimes things come out because it's time!. those that love you won't turn their backs on you!. those that do, walk away and don't look back!. depression rears it's ugly face in may different forms!. for me i stayed in my room for months on end!. i don't do that anymore!. i needed to change my coping skills (or lack of!.) we need to find out what it is that makes us feel the way we do!. my guess is that its your family!. good luck to youWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi
i was jst about to ask a question about my self-harming probs before i noticed your question!.
I know what u mean, it can be very hard at times, especially when people start to find out!.
Whatever you do, don't feel guilty!.
By the way feel free 2 e-mail me if u wanna talk about y u did it, sometimes it can b easier explaining things 2 people u don't know
u can trust me i've been there before
xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
i was jst about to ask a question about my self-harming probs before i noticed your question!.
I know what u mean, it can be very hard at times, especially when people start to find out!.
Whatever you do, don't feel guilty!.
By the way feel free 2 e-mail me if u wanna talk about y u did it, sometimes it can b easier explaining things 2 people u don't know
u can trust me i've been there before
xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well, as far as I understand it, self harm is connected to feelings of low self esteem and what not, so it is bound to have some triggers to you when people look at it!. And honestly, some people aren't going to understand why - they may be angry or afraid or whatnot!.
The important thing is to keep seeing your therapist or doctor - that is so so vital to your getting better!. Through this you can learn how to control those negative feelings better, learn to love yourself and learn how to talk to people about your self harm!. It is going to be a long road, but you've taken that important first step, so feel proud of that!.
Keep up the good work and hang in there!. Try and treat yourself how you treat others - I'm betting you are a lot kinder to them than you are to yourself!. You deserve to treat yourself the same way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The important thing is to keep seeing your therapist or doctor - that is so so vital to your getting better!. Through this you can learn how to control those negative feelings better, learn to love yourself and learn how to talk to people about your self harm!. It is going to be a long road, but you've taken that important first step, so feel proud of that!.
Keep up the good work and hang in there!. Try and treat yourself how you treat others - I'm betting you are a lot kinder to them than you are to yourself!. You deserve to treat yourself the same way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The only real problem would be if people had found out, and got worried about you and you refused to get help!. This makes people worry and it's unfair on them!. You haven't done this, you are going to the doctor so you are doing the right thing!. You can put your friends' minds at rest that you are getting help!.
I don't think they will judge you badly for it, because they know you are being genuine about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think they will judge you badly for it, because they know you are being genuine about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I self harm to, so trust me when i tell you its good that they found out!. It must have killed you to do it for so long and never confide in anyone!.
I think that the best thing to do is gather everyone who found out that night, and explain to them everything!. They will be able to understand with you explaining, and it might hurt them, but they love you and will help you to get through it!.
Dont feel guilty, its not your fault!. please, trust me when i tell you how hard it is to come out to them about self harm, i had to do it and i thought i was going to lose my mind!. its nothing to feel guilty over, althouh i did to, its normal, but remember,,,it is NOT your fault!.
best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that the best thing to do is gather everyone who found out that night, and explain to them everything!. They will be able to understand with you explaining, and it might hurt them, but they love you and will help you to get through it!.
Dont feel guilty, its not your fault!. please, trust me when i tell you how hard it is to come out to them about self harm, i had to do it and i thought i was going to lose my mind!. its nothing to feel guilty over, althouh i did to, its normal, but remember,,,it is NOT your fault!.
best wishes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think going to the doctor was a big step
whatever the doctor said you should definitely listen to him/her
and i think what you just typed would be kind of perfect to tell them
when your ready, tell them you've been doing this for years and you don't know why (unless you do know why, then tell them that) and say that you want help and that you can't go on living like this
or if your too scared to talk to them about it you coudl go back to the doctor or talk to a guidence councelor or peer help or someone like that
the first step to solving a problem is admitting that you have one, so your half way there already, congratulations and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
whatever the doctor said you should definitely listen to him/her
and i think what you just typed would be kind of perfect to tell them
when your ready, tell them you've been doing this for years and you don't know why (unless you do know why, then tell them that) and say that you want help and that you can't go on living like this
or if your too scared to talk to them about it you coudl go back to the doctor or talk to a guidence councelor or peer help or someone like that
the first step to solving a problem is admitting that you have one, so your half way there already, congratulations and good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't feel terrible about people finding out, what's done is done and you know what, it was probably for the best!. They are your friends and family who love, care about you and won't judge you (if they do they shouldn't be in your life, but sometimes people need an adjustment period)!. Having coped for so long on your own, and knowing that's the way to deal with your problems that helps for you trying something different is very scary and letting people in leaves you feeling very vulnerable, however don't run before you can walk!. Take baby steps and seek professional help!. Remember this will be a long process and won't happen overnight but things will eventually start to change, but they might get worse before they get better!. Don't be scared, and take care!Www@Answer-Health@Com