I have become cold and heartless?!
Question: I have become cold and heartless!?
2 years ago i was in love with this girl called alyssa i really liked her and talked to her all the time we were really good friends and i asked her out she turned me down it hurt me alot i realize it was immature love but ever since then i have not been able to feel any real emotions for any girl i move on from girl to girl getting everythign i want from them looking for it but it seems that none of em give me the satisfaction that i got just from talking to alyssa im a pretty good looking guy and i want to be able to love again please help meWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It sounds to me like you simply aren't over her!. Why do you feel that you need to be dating girls if you don't have loving feelings for them to begin with!?
I think what you need is to ONLY date girls who will make you feel as Alyssa did, and no one until then!.
The feelings you felt for Alyssa (even if immature) were loving!. And if you don't have feelings similar to those for the girls you are dating, my advice would be, simply don't date!. At least not yet!. By doing so, you are just leading the girls (and yourself) on, and getting your hopes up for a situation that can't work out for you!.
True love is hard to come by, but it's worth waiting for!. Don't settle for anything less or you're bound to be dissappointed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think what you need is to ONLY date girls who will make you feel as Alyssa did, and no one until then!.
The feelings you felt for Alyssa (even if immature) were loving!. And if you don't have feelings similar to those for the girls you are dating, my advice would be, simply don't date!. At least not yet!. By doing so, you are just leading the girls (and yourself) on, and getting your hopes up for a situation that can't work out for you!.
True love is hard to come by, but it's worth waiting for!. Don't settle for anything less or you're bound to be dissappointed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to GIVE love before you can RECEIVE love!. Your looking for love in ALL the wrong places!. When you have high expectations of situations and people you give off vibrations which usually result in negative responses!. Just go with the flow and let whatever happens just do that!. You will find love again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
give it some time!. i once went on a date with a guy like you , and all he did was talk about his ex he was sooo in love with!. you need to get over her!. someone else will come along, but you have to be willing to give her a fighting chance!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do you even try to give others a chance!? You could try talking to them too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think before you can move on, you need to find closure with Alyssa!. I have included a link to Dr Phil's relationship autopsy to help you with this quest and also a link to how you can determine when you are ready for a successful relationship!. The one problem I think a lot of people make is that when they get hurt like you did, they just go out right away!. The whole get back on the horse theory!. However, as you have found out, that has stood in your way for finding true happiness!. You need to take a time-out and get over the hurt from being rejected!. What went wrong!? What can you learn from this experience!? And realize that you can love again, but to do that you need to get to know yourself first!.Www@Answer-Health@Com