How can I forget him?!
Question: How can I forget him!?
This is gonna sound really pathetic, but I think I'm in love with someone & I know that I can't ever be with them, but in the meantime, it's driving me crazy!.!.!.he's always on my mind & I cry over him alot, I just feel so desperate & sometimes a little scared at how I'm feeling!.!.!.I don't think I've ever felt like this before!. It has to stop before I go mad!.!.!.I just wish I could erase my mind of him, but I can't!.!.!.
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How can I forget him!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about him, and use the negative thought reprogramming technique, below!. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation!. Understand, and accept that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10!. Most people go through similar things, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger!. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved!. It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately!.
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!. ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ Also view page L, in section 2, on emotional control, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shanerisWww@Answer-Health@Com
When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser!?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery!. Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic"!. In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version!. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary!. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method!. ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ Also view page L, in section 2, on emotional control, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shanerisWww@Answer-Health@Com
Love!.!., or attraction like that is not easily forgotten!. I'm 28, and I still remember a few of the guys I reeeeeaallllly liked in high school, and never had a shot with!. Try to imagine yourself being married to him 5 years down the road!. What do you do for fun!? Do you have children!? Is this realistic, or are you giving into fantasy!? Everyone gives into fantasy, but if it isn't realistic, better not to torture yourself, or you might miss the man who is actually right for you, who will make you laugh and appreciate you, and bring out the best in you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com