Why am I so scared of rejection?!
Question: Why am I so scared of rejection!?
I am 16 years old and I would describe myself as fit and good looking!. I'm a funny intelligent easy to get on with person!.
I am so scared of being rejected by anyone!. Girls, people in the street, I was even scared of going to the Barbers on my own! (Now i'm just scared of the barber, he blows)
I haven't been out with anyone for at least 3 years, yeah I know i'm only young but still! And even when I am close to going out with someone who I think I like I make up reasons in my head as to why I shouldn't be with them!. Oh what would my sisters say, my mates say, she isnt that hot after all!.!.!. etc!
I also get incredibly worried about what other people would think!. I know I shouldn't care, and I have given advice to people in the past telling them the same, but why do I care so much!?
It isn't self confidence, I'm the most confident person in the world but it feels like these are the only two issues I need to sort out in my life and it's tearing me apart!
Help me please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so scared of being rejected by anyone!. Girls, people in the street, I was even scared of going to the Barbers on my own! (Now i'm just scared of the barber, he blows)
I haven't been out with anyone for at least 3 years, yeah I know i'm only young but still! And even when I am close to going out with someone who I think I like I make up reasons in my head as to why I shouldn't be with them!. Oh what would my sisters say, my mates say, she isnt that hot after all!.!.!. etc!
I also get incredibly worried about what other people would think!. I know I shouldn't care, and I have given advice to people in the past telling them the same, but why do I care so much!?
It isn't self confidence, I'm the most confident person in the world but it feels like these are the only two issues I need to sort out in my life and it's tearing me apart!
Help me please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
"Those who fear rejection shall never succeed"
Your afraid of being rejected by girls!? So what!?
If a girl rejects you, say to her 'So what, there are millions of other girls out there, and most of them are hotter then you!
Bro, you gotta remember, your not going to ever gain anything unless you take a risk!.
Keep strong man!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your afraid of being rejected by girls!? So what!?
If a girl rejects you, say to her 'So what, there are millions of other girls out there, and most of them are hotter then you!
Bro, you gotta remember, your not going to ever gain anything unless you take a risk!.
Keep strong man!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
umm well think of it this way
if you get rejected your just back as square one and arent affected but if you suceed comgratulations you have made it to step 2
its a mindset dont think of it as rejection think of it as being adventurous taking risks, being a daredevil
with this you can do anything you wantWww@Answer-Health@Com
if you get rejected your just back as square one and arent affected but if you suceed comgratulations you have made it to step 2
its a mindset dont think of it as rejection think of it as being adventurous taking risks, being a daredevil
with this you can do anything you wantWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well first off let me say its kudos to you because i have the same problem!.You must be the type of person who tries to keep love but maby you should let it go live a little, theres plenty of girls out there!. Do yourself a favor and chill out my brother its all good! =DWww@Answer-Health@Com
You can focus on your strengths now and work on your insecurities!. find ways to build up your self esteem!. It can be done through counselling which is a good idea!.
When we have relationships with other people it is helpful to have good self worth or we choose unhealthy people to be with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When we have relationships with other people it is helpful to have good self worth or we choose unhealthy people to be with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Imagine that you're naked!.
Seriously, it works!.
!.!.!.
Nah! it doesn't!. lol
Okay, you just have to not think about it to much, its all in your head, that little voice that keeps pulling you back!. Just tune it out
break the tension with a little joke, should help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Seriously, it works!.
!.!.!.
Nah! it doesn't!. lol
Okay, you just have to not think about it to much, its all in your head, that little voice that keeps pulling you back!. Just tune it out
break the tension with a little joke, should help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You remind me of me are so not the most confident person in the world, in fact!.
You must, absolutely must believe in yourself, I mean really!. You do not need other peoples approval!. Please just do!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must, absolutely must believe in yourself, I mean really!. You do not need other peoples approval!. Please just do!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Social anxiety disorder!. It isn't life-threatening or anything, but it is terribly unpleasant, so you should seek COMPETENT help from a psychologist or psychiatrist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just think of yourself as: if i get rejected then they are too stupid to see the type of person i really am (assuming your a good person)Www@Answer-Health@Com
sure your confident but you may think the other people are more confident!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I dont no!. Its just a teenage thing, im like that aswell!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't know i have the same exact problem!. i am 16 also!. i didn't start feeling this way until i switched schools when i was 14!. this all started when i was 15!. im hoping its something that comes with being in highschool and stuff and that it will go away in a couple years!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have nothing to loose when it comes to getting girls, if you realy like a girl then you should ask her out after a couple of weeks of tlking to her and stuff u need to make sure she wud be kinda intrested in you!.
I'm sure many people on here have all been rejected once or twice i have once and 2 months later the girl liked me so you might as well go for it!.!.!.!.!. if that same scenario happens to you of the girl becoming intrested in you after rejecting you, dont be stubborn like me and reject her!!! cuz i like her again now and im truly buggeredWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sure many people on here have all been rejected once or twice i have once and 2 months later the girl liked me so you might as well go for it!.!.!.!.!. if that same scenario happens to you of the girl becoming intrested in you after rejecting you, dont be stubborn like me and reject her!!! cuz i like her again now and im truly buggeredWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hmm, I dont know if you sound like the most self-confident person!.
Someone who is self-confident, is also confident in the decisions they make, and confident in a sense that they are willing to take a risk wether the outcome is awesome or hell!.
Of course, that right there just sounds like god!. Or jesus!. Or some almighty person!.
But the truth is most people arent like that, but you really have to strive to be!. Dont worry so much!. It sounds easy, but I know it isnt, Im just like you!. Have you considered you might be a bit of a pessimist!?
Im definitly one!. You get scared of the worst outcome and dont even try at all!. You should try to be optimistic!. I think being an optimist or realistic is better than a pessimist!. Sometimes you can be a pessimist, but not in all your "life" matters, you need to be an optimistic or realist to survive!. Being an optimistic is being someone who always assumes or wants the positives, and looks to that direction over anything else, and a realist is someone who is balanced, they see the positives and negatives, but just risk it and go with it and try to accept the outcome at the end!. But prepare for both!.
Yet, as you can see, a realist is not really much of a pessimist at all, because he eventually has to accept the negatives to even take the risk at all!. Which in itself is a positive!. While a pessimist, would probably run away and not even accept the possibility of a bad outcome or risk anything!. Get me!?
I didnt mean to confuse the hell out of you!. You probably are confused!. All Im saying, is from the sounds of it, you sound more pessimistic than just "afraid of rejection"!.
That is something to definitly work on!. Ethier with professional help, or doing things that literally help you and force you to become more positive, and take risks!.
I hope I helped in some way, i guess thats all i can give :P Best of luck though :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Someone who is self-confident, is also confident in the decisions they make, and confident in a sense that they are willing to take a risk wether the outcome is awesome or hell!.
Of course, that right there just sounds like god!. Or jesus!. Or some almighty person!.
But the truth is most people arent like that, but you really have to strive to be!. Dont worry so much!. It sounds easy, but I know it isnt, Im just like you!. Have you considered you might be a bit of a pessimist!?
Im definitly one!. You get scared of the worst outcome and dont even try at all!. You should try to be optimistic!. I think being an optimist or realistic is better than a pessimist!. Sometimes you can be a pessimist, but not in all your "life" matters, you need to be an optimistic or realist to survive!. Being an optimistic is being someone who always assumes or wants the positives, and looks to that direction over anything else, and a realist is someone who is balanced, they see the positives and negatives, but just risk it and go with it and try to accept the outcome at the end!. But prepare for both!.
Yet, as you can see, a realist is not really much of a pessimist at all, because he eventually has to accept the negatives to even take the risk at all!. Which in itself is a positive!. While a pessimist, would probably run away and not even accept the possibility of a bad outcome or risk anything!. Get me!?
I didnt mean to confuse the hell out of you!. You probably are confused!. All Im saying, is from the sounds of it, you sound more pessimistic than just "afraid of rejection"!.
That is something to definitly work on!. Ethier with professional help, or doing things that literally help you and force you to become more positive, and take risks!.
I hope I helped in some way, i guess thats all i can give :P Best of luck though :)Www@Answer-Health@Com