Still depressed over feeling used...?!
Question: Still depressed over feeling used!.!.!.!?
ok im asking to not be judged please!. Well i lost my virginity when i was 17 to a much older guy!. We casually dated for 6 months i turned 18 blah blah!. well I fell in love with him, but he didnt with me!. I eventually broke it off with him because he didnt want to be in a commited relationship and i knew if i continued i was only hurting myself!. Well i can honestly say i have learned my lesson! and consider it now a temporary lapse of judgement!. I have also not been intimate with any one since!. its been a year and a half since all this!. however my problem is im still dealing with the hurt and anger over this!. i feel used obviously!. and my self esteem has really been affected!. I need some advice please!. Thanx in advance!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Been there-done that (except I got a coffee cup)!. NOW!
Tonight go out side and look up at the sky!. (Hopefully you can see the stars)!. Take a deep breath and relax!. Behold! The only thing greater than yourself!.!.!. You are the only person that can correct your mistakes!.!.!.You father can't-your mother can't--only you!. YOU have to be big enough to forgive yourself and others for PAST MISTAKES!. And you are the only one that can chart your future!. You have a life time to make GOOD MEMORIES and become what you want to be!. I do not believe you want to go through life THINKING you were used!. If you had a relationship with this person it had to be one that goes both ways--YOU got some good from it, did you not!? It may not have been what you exactly wanted, but you were not USED if you got something good from the relationship!. Even if it was for a short time!. SO! If you weren't used you have no right to feel that way!. Remember the good parts-push off the bad parts and go make your own life into what you really want!. And I am proud of you for doing that!.
Dr!. Tommy SkeltonWww@Answer-Health@Com
Tonight go out side and look up at the sky!. (Hopefully you can see the stars)!. Take a deep breath and relax!. Behold! The only thing greater than yourself!.!.!. You are the only person that can correct your mistakes!.!.!.You father can't-your mother can't--only you!. YOU have to be big enough to forgive yourself and others for PAST MISTAKES!. And you are the only one that can chart your future!. You have a life time to make GOOD MEMORIES and become what you want to be!. I do not believe you want to go through life THINKING you were used!. If you had a relationship with this person it had to be one that goes both ways--YOU got some good from it, did you not!? It may not have been what you exactly wanted, but you were not USED if you got something good from the relationship!. Even if it was for a short time!. SO! If you weren't used you have no right to feel that way!. Remember the good parts-push off the bad parts and go make your own life into what you really want!. And I am proud of you for doing that!.
Dr!. Tommy SkeltonWww@Answer-Health@Com
I dont know if used is the right word, but he wasnt involved like you, and eventually, you'll see he's creepy since he much older!. Because of his age, he's actually a pedophile, which means he has lots of problems!. YOu'd never have a normal relationship with him!.
My mother used to tell me this and it's true, time heals all wounds!. Go out with friends and do things to improve yourself!. Everyone has had disappointments, even celebrities!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My mother used to tell me this and it's true, time heals all wounds!. Go out with friends and do things to improve yourself!. Everyone has had disappointments, even celebrities!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I also lost my virginity at 17 and I can say I was not ready for that but, my advice is to either listen to or call DR Laura!. If you have never heard of her go to her website drlaura!.com She will be able to give you some clarity into why you are still feeling this way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
IF YOUR STILL FEELING HURT, YOUR STILL IN LOVE!. AND IT WILL JUST TAKE TIME!. BELIEVE WHAT YOU TYPED!. WORK IT OUT IN YOUR HEAD AND YOUR HEART WILL FOLLOW!.HE WASNT MATURE OR WHOLE ENOUGH TO SEE HE HAD SOMETHING OF VALUE!.(something that everyone wants, to love and be loved and someone who's trustworthy) ITS HIS FAILURE NOT YOURS!. ONE DAY HES GONNA WAKE UP AND REALIZE THAT HE WANTS WHAT HE LOST A LONG TIME AGO!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i almost got married twice and was used by their kids!. i was hurt becasue i was really falling for being a role mode to them but the women made me feel like trash!. im almost 30 now and am considering myself a virgin now!. mail me if you need someone to talk toWww@Answer-Health@Com
Victoria - Depression usually follows UNEXPRESSED anger!. You are angry over feeling used and that anger has turned inward to depression!. You are now literally STUCK in anger and depression!. Please know Emotions (like anger and depression) are ENERGIES IN MOTION in our bodies!.
Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body!. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion (i!.e!., FEEL YOUR ANGER)!. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared!.
One good way to release your anger (and depression) is by using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping!. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release negative emotions, thoughts and beliefs!. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in minutes)!. You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue!. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete!. EFT works quickly and painlessly!.
Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www!.emofree!.com)!. Also, please watch the FREE Introductory video!.
There is another EFT website, Tapping!.com, where you can get immediate help for your issues while learning EFT by just tapping along to one of their 14 FREE instructional videos (including Anger Management and Releasing Memories)
If you want to know how effective EFT is in helping mend a broken heart, please read this article: http://www!.emofree!.com/Articles2/heartbr!.!.!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body!. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion (i!.e!., FEEL YOUR ANGER)!. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared!.
One good way to release your anger (and depression) is by using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping!. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release negative emotions, thoughts and beliefs!. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in minutes)!. You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue!. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete!. EFT works quickly and painlessly!.
Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www!.emofree!.com)!. Also, please watch the FREE Introductory video!.
There is another EFT website, Tapping!.com, where you can get immediate help for your issues while learning EFT by just tapping along to one of their 14 FREE instructional videos (including Anger Management and Releasing Memories)
If you want to know how effective EFT is in helping mend a broken heart, please read this article: http://www!.emofree!.com/Articles2/heartbr!.!.!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com