My girlfriend is worrying me?!
Question: My girlfriend is worrying me!?
Well, I'm twenty and looking after my three-year-old son as a single parent!. My girlfriend, who I've been with for two years, is really good with him and he adores her!. Over the last 6 months or so, I've noticed a lot of big changes in her!. She's started drinking a lot more, and she occasionally smokes!. I gave up both smoking and drinking for my son, and her carrying on is having an affect on all of us!. She seems spaced out a lot of the time, like she's not really with it and she seems really down quite a bit!. She gets really paranoid as well, about anything and everything!. I've talked to her about it, but I really don't think she notices that she's doing anything!. I had a serious talk with her the other day, because her behaviour is having serious impact on Nathan!. He sees her drinking and crying and storming out after a silly argument!. I love my girlfriend, but my son has to come first, he comes before anyone else!. I don't know what to do, she's just so different!. What can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Instead of talking to her about the behavior, talk to her about what's driving it!. Why is she drinking!? Could be pressure!. Could be masking something else!. Could be reverting to old habits!. And, yes, your son comes first!. She needs to understand that!.
PS - She has to want to see a doctor or go to rehab!. You can't make her do what she doesn't want to do for herself!. If the underlying reason is medical or psychiatric, a doctor or psychiatrist is appropriate!. (A lot of ppl with mental disorders "small or large" self-medicate!.) If it's addiction, rehab would be more appropriate!. Actually, therapy might be appropriate in either case!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
PS - She has to want to see a doctor or go to rehab!. You can't make her do what she doesn't want to do for herself!. If the underlying reason is medical or psychiatric, a doctor or psychiatrist is appropriate!. (A lot of ppl with mental disorders "small or large" self-medicate!.) If it's addiction, rehab would be more appropriate!. Actually, therapy might be appropriate in either case!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like she is trying to avoid her emotions desperately, has she got any skeletens in her cupboard she needs to sort!?
You have to talk when she is sober but if she refuses or doesn't know herself why she is trying to lose herself you may have to be strong untill it comes to a head and then just be there for her while she works out her troubles!. We all have big learning curves in our lives I'm 46 and still trying to work my self out!.!. Its painful but remember she is so important to your son xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
You have to talk when she is sober but if she refuses or doesn't know herself why she is trying to lose herself you may have to be strong untill it comes to a head and then just be there for her while she works out her troubles!. We all have big learning curves in our lives I'm 46 and still trying to work my self out!.!. Its painful but remember she is so important to your son xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
she is too young for the responsibility you are trying to put on her!. She is rebelling against that, just as she likely rebels against her parents if she still has contact with them!. For the sake of your son, you need to keep her away from him and from yourself, she will take you both down if you allow her to continue, and you can't change her!. Suggest you move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think the doctor will help but give her time she must be needing a little space,I mean she has to take care of your son
in an early age and everything!.Maybe she needs to hang out with her friends!.If it gets really serious get help!
And warn her bout drinking it can lead to cancer!Www@Answer-Health@Com
in an early age and everything!.Maybe she needs to hang out with her friends!.If it gets really serious get help!
And warn her bout drinking it can lead to cancer!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Something probably happened to her recently and she's probably, really freaked out about it!. Try asking her if something recently happened to her that you do not know about!.
One of my friends almost got kidnapped and molested recently and now she's paranoid most of the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
One of my friends almost got kidnapped and molested recently and now she's paranoid most of the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well if she isn't listening and she is paranoid!.!.!.!.she may be addicted!. mabye think about what you want!. her to be safe, her to expose this to your son, forget her, what!? maybe think about rehab but no matter what!.!.!.!.!.your son comes FIRST!Www@Answer-Health@Com
shes probably haveing a hard time!. talk to her about it and if she stilll doesnt change then i think u should move on,!. ur son should come first!. and ur being a great parent thinking that!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe she has some problems, maybe there's something worrying her!. Ask her what's wrong, maybe it
s something simple to solve and you can make her better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
s something simple to solve and you can make her better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her again about your concerns, and tell her that you're worried about her and you love her and you dont want this to affect your relationship anymore!. Tell her that since you love her you're gonna help her to do anything which will make her feel better!. And if all of that doesnt work, since you love your son and he comes first, as he should and its amazing you feel that way because many people dont, then if its affecting him and she isnt willing to help herself, then the best thing for you to do would be to walk out of your relationship!. Harsh but true sorry!. Good Luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com