What to do about manic depressive father in law?!
Question: my father in law in an apparent manic depressive although he remains undiagnosed. it will be 3 weeks today he has been locked in his house, none of his family no what to do. Do we leave him? Call a doctor? he flips just from the smallest things like hoovering a stamp up by accident! he never buys much food..just gifts for people. he has being having these episodes for a long time now with not much help and my family cant cope much more. hes a very complusive person and does the most random things. we are all walking on egg shells. he hasnt seen his grandchildren for 3 weeks and hasnt been seen although we know hes ok as he leaves notes in his ex wifes letter box( he still tries to control her every move)he said my two year old dont care for him she treats him like a toy!!( shes two!).....can u give me any advice?
do we ring for a doctor?
or just leave him?
Answers: my father in law in an apparent manic depressive although he remains undiagnosed. it will be 3 weeks today he has been locked in his house, none of his family no what to do. Do we leave him? Call a doctor? he flips just from the smallest things like hoovering a stamp up by accident! he never buys much food..just gifts for people. he has being having these episodes for a long time now with not much help and my family cant cope much more. hes a very complusive person and does the most random things. we are all walking on egg shells. he hasnt seen his grandchildren for 3 weeks and hasnt been seen although we know hes ok as he leaves notes in his ex wifes letter box( he still tries to control her every move)he said my two year old dont care for him she treats him like a toy!!( shes two!).....can u give me any advice?
do we ring for a doctor?
or just leave him?
If your father law has a mental illness, whether bi-polar or OCD, he should be receiving treatment and counselling. It seems that you're in a very difficult position as he's locked himself in his home. For his own health and safety, you should make an appointment to see his doctor so that he/she can be made aware of what's happening. I think a personal visit to the doctor would be much better than a mere telephone call, and it would be best if it was actually one of his children that approached the doctor, if that's possible. (Next of kin). I hope all goes well.
You need to get in contact with a G.P who will be able to advise you better. It sounds as though he is going through a very bad patch and really needs some help.
You should ring your doctor and ask them for their advice. Tell them what you have written here and see what they suggest. They are the most qualified to deal with this type of situation because they see it on a regular basis.
Once you have spoken to someone, it will start a process and you can move on. Don't just leave him like this.
You should really call a doctor or something... that's not really anyone online should be answering
sounds like you need to just have him put to sleep
he probably has a depression and i think he needs help because it sounds like if he is screaming for help y'all should let him feel like y'all need him so he doesn't feel this way good luck!!!!!
We have just had to do this to my Nan's Husband.
He needs 2 doctors, an ambulance and police present and he needs sectioning under the mental health act - NOW!
Do not mess about, call his doctor right away and stress to them that he is a danger to himself and those around him. For his own well being he needs to be put on calming drugs to bring him down out of his manic state. It can take a long time, the guy in question here has been on hospital for over 3 months and they have only just started letting him have home visits.
He needs your help now. For all of your sakes.
This is a very difficult situation for you. Your father-in-law must be leaving the house in order to put notes through the letter box and so he might be going out to buy food as well. Unless he is threatening violence, the professionals view might be that there is no evidence that he is a danger to himself or others.
I would suggest phoning the helpline of your local mental health services, and this would be best done by the person who is his next of kin, presumably your husband? If he is known to the mental health services, they may agree to do a home visit.
Good luck
Depending on your state, you can call an ambulance to come and get him and put him on a 72 (96 in some states) hour hold for observation and evaluation. I was involuntarily committed to hospitals on 2 occasions. Reason being, I was having a manic episode. the authorities that will arrive can determine this and have the ability to place him in psych care against his will. No Manic Depressive is going to go willingly so this may be your only option. In CA, they call this a 5150. Do some research on this in your state and see if you can get him picked up. It won't be pretty but it will be the best thing for him.