Never being able to please someone?!
Question: I have a friend I can never seem to please, no matter what I do. Nothing is EVER good enough.
If she asks me a question and I don't give her the answer she was looking for, she gets mad at me and causes a fight. If she tells me something and I don't sound as excited as she wants me to be, she gets mad at me and causes a fight. If I don't do what she wants me to do, she says that I have hurt her and causes a fight. Basically, it seems as if I can't do or say anything right unless it coincides with what she has planned out in her head. Whenever I want to try to resolve our fights, she says she "can't deal with it right now" and we sweep the issues under the rug. She has gone through depression and has a family history of schizophrenia.
What are your thoughts about all of this?
Answers: I have a friend I can never seem to please, no matter what I do. Nothing is EVER good enough.
If she asks me a question and I don't give her the answer she was looking for, she gets mad at me and causes a fight. If she tells me something and I don't sound as excited as she wants me to be, she gets mad at me and causes a fight. If I don't do what she wants me to do, she says that I have hurt her and causes a fight. Basically, it seems as if I can't do or say anything right unless it coincides with what she has planned out in her head. Whenever I want to try to resolve our fights, she says she "can't deal with it right now" and we sweep the issues under the rug. She has gone through depression and has a family history of schizophrenia.
What are your thoughts about all of this?
Sounds like a one sided friendship. That's not really friendship, its' charity work and a socail project. For your own sake learn to differentiate real friends from projects so that you know how much energy and expectation to put into the relationship and you will be less likely to get hurt.
That it's time to find a new set of friends.
You'll never be able to please her.
She needs to grow up first.
That sounds rather familiar.
You don't need to carry this girl: She doesn't really sound like she wants a friend at all. She wants an ego prop. Ditch her.
Good luck.
Depression is hereditary. Just keep that in mind. Sounds like she is looking for approval, that she may not have at home. You are probally a better friend to her than you think.