Am i depressed or just mad and sad?!
Question: I'm 12.my family is having financial problems and stuff and they work a lot.i go to a private skool andi might have to go to public because of the money.i don't want to, but i will make the sacrifice for my parents. My mom comes home from work grumpy and she yells at me and she yelled at my sister and said sorry but she didn't apologize to me. I hate the way i look. I got sponsored for a leadership program but i can't go because its too expensive. one of my friends dosen't talk to mr at all anymore.I'm clumsy and really not perfect.Am i depressed or just really sad?
Answers: I'm 12.my family is having financial problems and stuff and they work a lot.i go to a private skool andi might have to go to public because of the money.i don't want to, but i will make the sacrifice for my parents. My mom comes home from work grumpy and she yells at me and she yelled at my sister and said sorry but she didn't apologize to me. I hate the way i look. I got sponsored for a leadership program but i can't go because its too expensive. one of my friends dosen't talk to mr at all anymore.I'm clumsy and really not perfect.Am i depressed or just really sad?
You seem to have some pretty compelling reasons to suspect that you are either "depressed" or "mad and sad." It makes good sense, too, when you consider your situation: There are numerous things going on in your life, all of which leave you feeling frustrated, "sad" and "mad."
1. You cannot control your parents' financial situation
2. You cannot make your mother "happy" and less grumpy
3. You secretly harbor the notion that your mother favors your sister over you and you wonder what your sister has that you don't.
4. You cannot keep yourself in private school if your parents are not able to afford it.
5. You are angry at the thought of having to go to a public school, a choice that you did not make and a situation you did not ask for.
6. The thought of not being able to return to your Leadership Program makes you realize that you will be facing yet another loss in your life. You feel as though everything you like is being taken away and you can't do a thing about it.
7. You are mad about the way you look and about your lack of coordination, and this causes you to be overly critical of yourself; you compare yourself with others whom you perceive to be "perfect" and then conclude that you are imperfect.
8. You miss your friend and the conversations you and she once had. You feel confused about the break up and are unsure of how to initiate contact with her again. You don't want to be rejected again, and this causes you to feel scared and sad.
Let's see what you can change:
You could take a babysitting job in your area if there is anything available for a girl your age. Maybe if your parents see you making little sacrifices to help yourself they will find a way to help keep you in private school.
You could ask your parents if they would consider talking to your school principal or headmaster about keeping you in the private school at a lower tuition cost or on a grant or scholarship.
Maybe you could make a little list of jobs that are needing to be done in the house and while your Mother is at work suprise her! Do one or two small jobs each night without her having to ask you first.
Won't she be surpised - and thrilled - when she comes home from work and sees the furniture dusted or the floor vacuumed or, better yet, a simple meal ready and waiting?
Ask your parents if they would consider speaking with someone at your Leadership Program - or if they would allow you to speak to someone at the Program - to see if your expenses could be reduced or defrayed somehow. Does this Leadership Program give scholarships to deserving youth? Maybe you would qualify.
And about your appearance: Maybe your mother would consider letting you use a little bit of light makeup (like blush and lip gloss and maybe a bit of eyeshadow) for a special occasion to help you feel better about your looks. A few new articles of clothing or new pair of shoes would help, too, in this regard. A babysitting job would enable you to have a little bit of cash to buy a few items for yourself now and then, too.
And, last but not least: The friend who doesn't talk to you anymore might be having some problems at home, also. Maybe these are personal problems she can't bring herself to discuss with her friends. Perhaps she is feeling down and blue -- sort of how you are feeling now.
You could begin to break the ice by simply saying, "hello" when you see her at school. Every day be pleasant and try not to let her think you are mad at her or upset with her. Just be consistently pleasant and let her see you mingling with the other kids at school. The more fun (and smiles) she sees you enjoying, the more she might want to share that world with you again. Happiness and smiles usually attract people like magnets! Remember that, and try to exude positive energy.
It will all work out, and remember: You are not as helpless to change situations as you might think you are. The secret is in knowing which of these things need to be changed and which of them should be accepted and left alone.
Best wishes to you for a better tomorrow and the next day, and all the days after that.
you could be depressed, but it sounds to me like sadness. being sad about one thing (i.e. financial troubles) generally makes you overall sad about everything (i.e. your looks). your dislike of your looks and clumsiness are more likely just part of puberty (ahh the joys of teen angst, right? lol) but if you start feeling worse and worse over time, talk to your doctor, or if you just want someone to rant to, feel free to email me any time :) <3 & luck to ya
You're really sad because of the finacial problems and the ways you're mom treats you an dthe fact that you're friend doesn't talk to you. Anyways NOBODY'S PERFECT!!!!!
um.............none of the above
financially your parents will get better, your look will change , when u get a few years older- puberty
when i was your age i had same problems, im fine now
- been there done that
Sad and depressed are really the same thing.I can see why you'd feel like that, but you forget, not everyone got selected for a leadership program.You have a talent for that not everyone else has.
You may not be able to do those things now in school, but when you get older you can get a Pell grant for college or maybe a student loan.Try to over look your mom and when she is in a better mood, tell her how it hurts you when she yells at you.She probably doesnt realize it.As far as your friend, I am sorry, I am sure you will make other friends, you sound like a really nice person.GOD loves you when no one else does or will(Im sure others do though).Visit church sometime, youll make friends there, the United Pentecostal churches are great.
you sound like a spoiled kid, who has to give some stuff up and your just putting things out of porportion....
try to be optimistic. everything WILL get better.
if youre depressed, it can only improve
alot of families in america are going through financial problems right now - the economy is at a low. youre only 12- everyone is ugly when theyre 12. you will blossom into a beautiful young teen believe me! everyone gets better looking in their teens and 2os. but no you do not seem depressed, maybe bitter tho.im sur your parents are trying their best to support the rest of the family - it's a phase, the economy will improve and life will be back to normal! try exercising, writing or keeping busy with hobbies you like doing
I think you're being to hard on your self. Trust me, I'm going through the same thing! Right now I'm in therapy.
The reason your mom yells is probably because she's stressed, you just need to be patent with her and maybe talk with your mom about how your feeling if you haven't already. And if school is getting expensive... you might want to consider Home-schooling. That's what I'm doing and it's pretty cool!
Well, what ever you do, I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that everything turns out for the best! ^.^
much love, M.
p.s. let me now how things go o.k?
First of all nobody is perfect!!! Get that out of you head right away. Second, if your friend dosn't want to talk to you without a valid reason then screw'em!!! That aint much of a friend anyways. A real friend will like you for who you are and stick with you through tough times.
Everyone in this world deals with depression at some point in their lives. Don 't worry, everything happens for a reason. Your mom is probably going through a tough time and dosn't realize that she is being hard on you. Ask her how she is doing... You are not clumsy, I would recommend you to get into sports or somekind of hysical activity while you are still young; this will help your depression a great deal and it also helps with coordination.
Hope this helps, good luck and God bless!!!