I've lost faith in everything and everyone to the point where nothing feels !
Question: and I feel isolated with nobody to talk to or worse still hear my cries for help. My family irritate me because their life revolves around the TV and themselves. The guy I was dating turned out to be a lying rat and now to top it off I may have cervical cancer. I went to my GP for help and all she said was they're normal feelings and to go home eat a nice meal and get a good nights sleep. What kind of diagnosis is that i went for help because i'm totally demotivated i've fallen behind on my degree studies and cannot even bring myself to do the housework. I'm beginning to think there is no hope left and if I do have cancer what's the point in fighting it?
Answers: and I feel isolated with nobody to talk to or worse still hear my cries for help. My family irritate me because their life revolves around the TV and themselves. The guy I was dating turned out to be a lying rat and now to top it off I may have cervical cancer. I went to my GP for help and all she said was they're normal feelings and to go home eat a nice meal and get a good nights sleep. What kind of diagnosis is that i went for help because i'm totally demotivated i've fallen behind on my degree studies and cannot even bring myself to do the housework. I'm beginning to think there is no hope left and if I do have cancer what's the point in fighting it?
Keep the faith! Sometimes that's all you have, and I'm not necessarily talking about religious faith. You have to have faith in yourself and faith in others to help you. Sure, you've been discouraged and been letdown in the past, but you can't let that stop you from believing in human nature to win out that we will eventually receive help when in dire need (from friends, family and even strangers)! Because there are people who care -- you just have to find them, or let them find you.
You may have cervical cancer, you may not. The last guy you dated was a real jerk ... but the next guy could be the man of your dreams. It just seems to be a matter of perspective - your perspective. Don't like your doctor's opinion or diagnosis? Go seek out a second opinion or diagnosis.
Cervical cancer is an "either or" thing -- either you have it or not, there are no "maybes" - grow a culture and if the cells from the cone biopsy are cancerous then you deal with the next step ... eradication. Radiation, chemotherapy or a partial hysterectomy may be called upon as possible solutions, if required.
Your family is caught up in themselves, or rather the "boob tube" and life around that aspect of life as we know it. Their self-absorption is not at all unusual these days -- that's why they most likely call them part of the "ME Generation."
I would say seek solace from others. If your friends are unavailable or simply don't care, seek out counselors available to you from where you're attending school, church or place of employment. I would say, contact me if you need an ear and want someone -- anyone -- to listen, but even I may be too unreliable, as I have problems of my own to deal with and only rarely get online during my sparse free time.
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omg..dont put urself down like that!..loads of peope have cancer, it doesnt mean ur gonna die. coz theirs lots of cures and stuff now..u shud try and luk in2 religion...coz i'm a muslim, and i belive everything including disease is a test from God. don't worry im not tryna convert u or anything lol. take the doctors advice. dont give in.
hang on a minute, where does the cervical cancer thing come from, you need to see what thats all about first, I know you are depressed, but if your doctor thinks you are just temporally unhappy like everyone gets, then maybe you just need to be nice to yourself, talk to your family, see if they can help you, you have a lot to cope with, but if you break it down into bite sized pieces then you can cope better.
So, your depressed?
Don't give up! Would you consider anti-depressants. Although I know they aren't going to make the situations in your life better they could help.
Find someone to talk to, even if it's not your family. You need a support person now more than ever. Find something you enjoy doing.
And as far as fighting your cancer goes, of course you should. I promise there are better things and better days ahead for you, you sound young so don't give up now.
As far as your GP goes.....she should be more empathetic with you! But then again that's the exact kind of person who made me want to go into health care.
I wish I could help you, but all I can really do over the computer is tell you to stay positive-which i know must be hard!
The first thing I have to say is that if you have cancer it is definitely worth fighting...the simple answer to why is that your life can always get better!! And I believe it will. Maybe someday you will meet a young girl who is going through what you are right now..you will be able to help her..and that is powerful!! Sometimes it is hard to see past where you are at..it sounds like you are lonely and your family isn't supporting you...you've lost motivation which I know can make you feel hopeless...I have definitely been there. Start thinking about the things you used to dream about...force yourself to take the initial steps in working on your degree again and I am sure some of your motivation will come back. Try to find some kind of club to join..or maybe a local church where you can meet some people and have a good time. Don't get down on something you aren't sure of...I recently went through a similar process where I had a breast lump tested for cancer and it was the longest 4 days I ever waited, but it was worse when I let myself think of all the what ifs...start thinking about all the things you want to do with your life..what your gifts and passions are!! Even if it is cancer..people beat it every day!! :) Maybe you should talk to your doctor about how you are feeling because maybe they will say they can help you get some of your motivation and hopefulness back with a little medication. No shame in that either :) I wish you the best!!
have you considered joining a support group for people with cancer? this could be a great outlet for you. there will be people who are walking in the same shoes as you. also, you are a student, so there are school/university resources available to you, now more than ever they have counseling for students. give that a try.
Change your GP. Even if you have cancer, it can be beaten - my wife beat it twice. Mind you, your environment won't help. Have you thought of moving out - to a place not too far from your family? Perhaps with a close friend?
Either way, steer clear of intimate relationships at the moment.
Hey, don't lose hope just yet! Technically, if you've been feeling down and isolated for more than 2 weeks, that can already be categorized as a form of depression. If you feel that you've reached a point where you can't even live your life and do the normal things you always do, then go to your GP again. Or find another and tell him what ur previous GP told you to do. Or make an appointment with a psychologist. We may sometimes feel like there's no hope and no point in fighting to live, but truth is, it's still there but we just lost sight of it. Hope is something you find and create when everything else fails. Don't give up. Even with cancer, your life is still worth living cuz your existence still has a purpose - just gotta open your heart n mind and find it.
I understand exactly how you feel.
I fully understand where your coming from. I am just now beginning to get over it after about a year. I could not even explain how I felt to other people. They did not even seem to want to listen and I couldn't make them understand how bad I felt mentally and physically. I would tell my doctor and he would not even answer just go on to something else. I finally convinced myself maybe he didn't know the answer. What kept me going was knowing how well I had felt years earlier and I strive to get that feeling back again. I have managed to get at least 4 hours per day back before I slip back into that feeling staight from hell feeling again. I do know now that I am slowly getting my will back. Don't give up keep marching forward you will get better even if it is only one hour per day. Take that hour and try and gain from that. Think of something you really want to do and strive for that or live for that day or time. You said you may have cervical cancer the key word here is may. You may not have it either so think this way and find out as soon as possible so you can put this worry behind you. I wish you the best and good luck. Just keep trying there is help out there. Hope you are feeling better in no time. Good Luck I do care.
You need a friend or a member of your family you can talk to,you need to talk, it will ease your problems, no one solves problems without talking.
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I am kind of in the same situation as you are but I know mine will get better. On February 28 I was in a terrible car accident that left me with a broken left hip and broken right ankle along with being 30 weeks pregnant. I was taken to a trauma center and they delivered my baby via c-section on March 2. I have been bed ridden ever since and have to have people clean me daily and after I go to the washroom. 5 weeks stuck in bed has been hard but you have to keep fighting as life could be worse. take one day at a time and things will start to look up....april 23 is my follow up appointment for 6 weeks post op and I am hoping the bones are healed and I will be able to take care of my baby and my 2 1/2 year old and I also have to learn to walk again.
I to have been thru these feelings. I once locked myself up in my bedroom for a year and shut everyone out. that really only made things worse. The answer is that you have to keep on going you can not give up. I started reading the bible and asking the lord for help while I also helped myself. But this only works if you really believe in what the lord has promised. You have not, because you have not asked and belived without a doubt there is nothing that the lord cannot do. Give him your worries and he will help you carry them will they be fixed in a day no, but if you have faith and do your part he will see you thru. sometimes prayers are not answered the way we want, because only God knows what is best for us. Have you asked yourself what you are meant for what is Gods purpose for you in your life pray and find out and start doing that and he will take care of you always. sometimes we suffer, but it is to bring understanding, strength, and patience in to our lives which we are lacking. Others can not save you only your relationship with Jesus can. Shutting yourself up and giving up makes a change in you that you can never erase. Don't do that just cryout to the Lord he is never to busy to listen, besides he loves to be needed He is always there for the broken hearted, if only they get right. Did you know the lord also counts the tears of a woman? You are important to him. Can you let Jesus be important to you? He loves you and he has not given up on you don't give up on him. take it from someone else who understands how you are feeling right now, I was there once to. Do I still have my bad days yes , but I keep talking to the Lord and some how thru his love I am stronger and better, even though I still have problems, but things could be worse. that is why I am grateful for the Lord and you need to call him up right now with a true belief and heart and you will feel him I promise.He always hears the true broken faithful heart. He has been there for me and I have felt and seen his love and miracles in my life since I only asked. I care about you and what happens to you, and I don't even know you, so there are others too. sometimes people are to busy with their own problems and life that they just don't realize how bad you are, but that doesn't mean they don't care, they just don't realize, but the Lord does he is waiting for you.
goggle Lance Armstrong,a man who took up professional cycling to beat cancer & won! iam praying for you right now.please be strong,put you faith in the Lord & wonderful things can happen.trust in the Lord Jesus Christ he can change everything.have faith,belive in hope & you can overcome anything.i had a life threatening illness i put my trust in Him & i have made a full recovery.Amen
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You put this question, you haven't lost faith, you are finding it, just looking for it in the right place. You can't find it around you or people don't seem to show it in an obvious way so you're looking elsewhere.
You'll be okay, and even if you won't you can't give in to life, it's tough and unfair, that's why you have to laugh! Laugh now!! Laugh at how stupid i feel cos i've just realised i sound professional at trying to help hehe =D just try remember, at the end of the day you're here now, and nobody can stop you from doing what you want.
You're looking for help, and you are on the way and finding it!
People are answering and trying to help, I hope you manage, and best of luck in all this!!
You'll pull through... in the end people feel like they've gone down but there's nothing to stop you from standing as tall as a mountain....