Whats my problem?!
Question: i'm 22. when i was 19 i was hospitalised with a drug induced psychosis when i was at uni. i was really moody and depressed as a teen. I dont do drugs anymore except on occassion, i only have a terrible drinking problem that makes me do really dumb things, like have unprotected sex with men who just use me. I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship a year ago and i have 0 self esteem. counselling is not working and im back at uni but im failing. im really down but im happier when im alone. all i want to do is damage myself. how do i regain lost self esteem and work through my issues? doctors and counsellers just think that there isnt a problem because im upbeat, but they cant feel what i do. I just need help, but of what kind? no advice seems to be working. i want to stop my course and just get therapy for a while, as this is what i need, but everyone around me says, lifes tough you need to learn how to deal. Whats wrong with me? Should i quit? ill start it next year...
Answers: i'm 22. when i was 19 i was hospitalised with a drug induced psychosis when i was at uni. i was really moody and depressed as a teen. I dont do drugs anymore except on occassion, i only have a terrible drinking problem that makes me do really dumb things, like have unprotected sex with men who just use me. I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship a year ago and i have 0 self esteem. counselling is not working and im back at uni but im failing. im really down but im happier when im alone. all i want to do is damage myself. how do i regain lost self esteem and work through my issues? doctors and counsellers just think that there isnt a problem because im upbeat, but they cant feel what i do. I just need help, but of what kind? no advice seems to be working. i want to stop my course and just get therapy for a while, as this is what i need, but everyone around me says, lifes tough you need to learn how to deal. Whats wrong with me? Should i quit? ill start it next year...
Immediate advice: stop doing drugs, including alcohol and sex. They don't help you to escape from anything or make any changes, and right now you don't seem able to handle the recreational aspects.
Second bit of advice: find something useful and do it. If it's something you can care about or feel passionate about, great, but if you're beyond caring and passion, just pick something that will help others. Work in a feeding centre, a charity, an animal shelter, anywhere that will get you out and doing something to help others. Commit to it, and no matter how you feel, get there on time and fulfil your commitment willingly and helpfully.
You seem to have had quite a bit of support. I can't say if you"re right or wrong to want more, but you need to examine your reasons and be very clear. Maybe you're in danger of turning into a support junkie, always lurching from therapy back to abuse so as to avoid taking responsibility for your life? Only you can know for sure. Just remember that refusing to act is an action; not choosing a path is a choice.
Feelings are just that - feelings. They come from inside us, and we make the choice whether they stay there or come out and rule our world. They have the power we give them.
All over the world, there are people feeling just like you. Some of them are dealing with their feelings through therapy, some through art, some through helping others, some through work or family, some not at all.
Self esteem is also just that - self esteem. Nobody can give it to you. Only you can decide if you like yourself or not. if the answer is no, how do you become someone you can like? Will more therapy help you to become that person? If so, go for it. If not, do whatever else will work for you instead.
Life is very precious and shouldn't be thrown away. If you decide to do that, it's your choice, but it's a waste.
I wish you peace, but you have to find it.
consult to Doctor Black Jack
in animax Channel 46
everyday 11:30-12:00
Its time to become a monk.
Stop doing drugs, drinking, and hurting yourself(emotionally and physically). It's sort of...really really simple. If you can't start there I don't know what to tell you.
Look at what you have got look at what you want and just do it make new friends help others stop feeling that the world owes you a living it doesnt you have to take the cake and eat it ~~
well start with putting the past behind you and try to start over. Dont get into a relationship for a long time just worry about school and work. Stop drinking. If it makes you make dumb decisions than there isnt a point in it right? Life is tough but there always is a way with dealing with things . There isnt anything wrong with you and you deff shouldnt quit
It sounds that you need the support of your family. Stop taking drugs, stop drinking to try and escape reality. I know it is hard when you are depressed. It sounds like you need to clean up your act and make a promise to yourself to treat yourself with respect. I suffered from depression and had no self esteem. I went on anti-depressants, and started taking care of myself. Don't hang around with people who are just doing drugs and drinking, join some other social group. Only you can help yourself, counselors can listen but that's about all. Talk to your family and ask for help and support. If you have unresolved issues sometimes its good to write them down in a journal let it all out and one day get rid of it and let them go. We all have to make the most of every day, you are obviously a clever person who just makes bad decisions. Check out the lightning process and Phil Parker. My son went to see him, he was really depressed but is much better now. Best of luck and don't give up, but you have to make the changes yourself. I had to.
It sounds like you may be bipolar. You should see a Psychiatrist about starting some meds for it and see if you get better.
You are clearly depressed, so at the bare minimum you should be taking an SSRI like Prozac of Celexa.
If you can afford and find it convenient, attend a yoga camp, yoga retreat.
It will detoxify your body and make you feel important because God has sent you to this earth with a mission.
Seek help and find a good meditation expert. The way you think has to be changed and a real impressive personality can help you change..
Hope it helps
Daljit
I understand how hard things have for you. Your main problem is that you are not valuing and respecting yourself and also your precious life. You need someone to talk to always, a companion and friend that will respect you, love you and will let you see how precious you are. I would recommend that you visit a hospital where the people are dying and suffering from sickness and yet they are struggling and fighting for there lives. You will feel very fortunate, that you have a family a healthy body and that you have food to eat. If you will see people fighting for there lives yo will feel sorry for them and more foryourself because you will realize that you are wasting yourself while others are struggling to survive. You also need to communicate to God talk to him express yourself, your anger and guilt. You should also be thankfull for all the blessings that you have. Be with the less fortunate and you will feel how fortunate you are and how unfortunate you are not have the fighting spirit that other people have. Remember, if they at their state can have the spirit to fight, then you too can with all your blessings. If you have nothing to do, be a volunteer helper in any orphanage, hospital, nursing homes and get in touch with other people. Get in touch with them and help them get by so will also learn to get by and appreciate everything that you have. Don't waste your time, money and life doing things that will hurt you or the people that love you. Reach out and extend your life to others who are in need. And I tell you, you will be the happiest person alive and you will learn to value each day that passes by. No one can help you, if you will not let them help you and help yourself. You are the master of your thoughts and no one can better no you than yourself. You know what you are capable of and I know that you know how to make good use of them. While you are feeling lonely and down there are people who don't even have the day or the strength to think because they are sick and helpless. While you are wasting your money on drugs , think of the people who are working so hard only earn a little, think of the people dying because they don't have the money for a decent medicine. While you are wasting yourself with alcohol, think of the people who don't even have water to drink. You are blessed in every way, in every angle, so please don't waste yourself. Remember, we only find the value of something when it is gone. Don't let yourself wake up one day with nothing to hold on to and regret the days that you wasted. Regret is a sign of pointless ending. You have the chance the time and life to make a difference not only to yourself but to others. Good luck! And I know that God will bless you the way He blesses you everyday! ???