Have you survived sexual abuse?!
Question: I was sexually abused as a child and have gone on to suffer sexual abuse as an adult.
I would love to hear from you if you have survived abuse as a child and gone on to have an abuse-free life as an adult.
Likewise, if you have suffered abuse as a child, and like myself, it has extended into adult life. Have you managed to get out of the abusive relationship? Are you able to take measures to protect yourself from futher abuse, and if so, what measures are you taking (therapy etc).
I am interested because I have failed to protect myself as an adult but have children who need to be able to protect themselves from abuse as adults (two sexually abused girls).
Answers: I was sexually abused as a child and have gone on to suffer sexual abuse as an adult.
I would love to hear from you if you have survived abuse as a child and gone on to have an abuse-free life as an adult.
Likewise, if you have suffered abuse as a child, and like myself, it has extended into adult life. Have you managed to get out of the abusive relationship? Are you able to take measures to protect yourself from futher abuse, and if so, what measures are you taking (therapy etc).
I am interested because I have failed to protect myself as an adult but have children who need to be able to protect themselves from abuse as adults (two sexually abused girls).
hi
yes i was abused sexually as a child
this is why i would never have children now, as for one thing i see all adults (male and female) as a potential abuser
i have been on medication for the last 4 years for post traumatic stress disorder, from what happened to me when i was a child
i also have OCD that the medication has helped with
i didnt have any councelling when it was found ut what was happening (but great news i did go to a group that was designed to help the abuser get better!!!!)
anyway all these things have just added to bitterness to the situation that when i look back was not half as bad as the experiences that i have seen just on this page
20 years later i find it difficult to let particularly my niece be seen to be alone with anybody, but my sister, her husband and my husband all understand that i also have been mentally damaged by the trauma suffered as a child
i also feel i have this stigma attached to me that people think that abused people are more likely to abuse children them selves, which is also a reason why i have decided not to have children, as even though i know i would never hurt a child, how can i guarantee that something wont take over, i do not want to be the cause of a child go through the same misery that i am and have been going through
i love my husband so much, but i do not trust him in the way others might trust there husband (my husband knows and understands this) we have fun with sex and enjoy ourselves but at the same time i have a problem with things like porn (which i understand some adult couples enjoy together) and i also have a problem with innuendo, which is something that goes on with work and environments
i also have flashbacks that can last days at a time and i can not get out of my head that he also had me hurt my sister sexually, these things have caused the depression and suicidal thoughts in the past
but i seem to be a bit better at the moment
i have problems hugging my dad and having any relationship atall with any male adults because even now 20 years after i feel that they are just looking at me like a sex object the same way my grandfather did
i have seen a psychiatrist about all this and have just stopped taking meds for the panic attacks i was getting (but not for 2 months now)
i am due to see him again this week and hopefully he is trying to sort me out some councelling for me to try to overcome some of the problems i have still got
anyway, please dont suffer at the hands of a abuser now, you are a adult, it is your life now and you controll it
if you ever want to talk you can email on my profile, (same with any of the people who have answered here today)
i might seem screwed up but it is nothoing compared to what children are going through right now
best wishes to you all in the future
xxx vici
I wasnt sexually abused as a child but was as an adult by my husband for the last 2 years of our marriage he raped me constantly - I know some people might say that we are married and sex is expected but I have vaginismus which makes sex either extremely painful or impossible - my husband lost patience with me and started forcing me into sex - he then started demanding that I not show the pain - I wasnt to cry or yell out or anything so I concentrated on this he then complained that I should be enjoying it and then started demanding that I enjoy it - I started waking up in the middle of the night with him entering me to have anal sex (also something I dislike and he knew it)
Im now having sexual assault counselling (the marriage is over) and I am now starting to meet other people but I always make it clear just what they are walking into - it means that some people dont hang around but Im surprised by the people who do and are patient with me.
I wish you all the best for the future and just remember look after number 1 and thats you and also up at number 1 are the children you need to care for.
Not personally, but I have several female friends who suffered bad abuse not confined to sexual. The interesting thing is both eventually came out of it after finally finding decent men to love and be loved by. They had low self esteem when young and were fastened upon by weak men who made themselves feel stronger by dominating them. They both had to find the courage to walk away at a time when these mens treatment made them feel worthless.
i was abused at 13. i am now nearly 19. and it carried on til about 4 months ago.
i spoke to the police over a year ago and they did their best but no outcome as of yet.
I have been pregnant twice (from the abuser), of one which i lost - as a results of the abuse.
bout 4 months ago i got an alarm he herd it once and i have never had any problems since.
It is not that easy for all people.
i have worked with victims recently and they have treid most things what seems to work are the alarms but also been convicted gives peace of mind to the person that their abuser has been locked up, keeping yourself safe for example locking all doors all the time, dont walk alone, wait with people, always be around people (this is not always possible), carry a mobile phone, let people know where you are going, when your going to be back, ring them if your going to be late for some reason.
It is really difficult to talk to your children about these things on how to protect themselves. i was very young and would not have listened anyway, everythin seems such an unreality when you mention abusers - until it has happened - which you desperatly want to prevent. best thing is to talk and say that this does happen. depending on how old they are and how comfortable you feel, tel them about what happened with you (not wise if they are young, or you cannot confort your past infront of your children)
More chat please IM me
Take care
xx
I think everyone is abused some way or other. and every one is spectetor of this abuse. its question who will tie the bell on the cats neck. if u have guts protest fight but dont expect u will attract lot of support. our society is like that we always exploit weak some way or other u cant change other but can say i will never abuse other.
call your local rape crisis hot line even if rape isn't involved they can point you in the right direction of a good therapist who can help you and the girls
Hey hun i'm so very sorry you had to go though this. Yes I was abused as a kid. Then now being 22 I have been raped 3x. You would think when would I learn my lesson. But I started to go though therapy ( the abuse, let me tell you what it has helped alot.) If you get more in touch with your self it helps, so you can see when somthing is not right. I mean it will not always help, but it is good to start to see that. IF I where you I go see a therapist, it helps to work though it. With your girls I would get them therapy too, I went for awhile when I was a kid and stoped. I'm paying for it now, I have had a break down I have been hosptialized. But if you have more questions I'm here to help you anyway I can hun. I wish you the best of luck. It is a long prossce But I know you can do it. Your very strong. Hang in there and kepp your head up hun!
I have`nt been sexually abused but some of my friends have,
one of my friends as a young child was subjected to abuse by her own father,as a result of this she still has to have regular therapy,now in her late thirties she has come through the worst of her nightmare experiences,but she still has the memories of a violent childhood,that will always be with her,no amount of therapy will ever change that.
my heart goes out to all the victems of child abuse.
I am working out of this book called: 'The Courage To Heal' you may want to look in to it. its a workbook and it helps you to move past this slowly but surley
here is a link that I think everyone should check out
http://www.isp.state.il.us/crime/saconfr...
I was sexually abused by a teenage male at the age of 7 and then by a twenty-something female when I was between the age of 13 and 15. Then at the age of 19 I was beaten and raped by two older men in the locker room at school.
I am 34 now and have just started trying to come to terms with my past. I have spoken to my physician about my depression and he has suggested I talk to a therapist.
I am frozen by the fear and shame of what happened to me and I haven't told anyone except my girlfriend.
I know how tough it is and I wish you well.
If you have time, maybe you could answer one of my questions...
http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...