Scary problem! help!?!
Question: so my dad has done some rather unspeakably bad things to me in the part and well very recently i came to understand why he did these things and who he is and who i am and basically kinda sorta not really but partial care about him and well
tommorrow i have an appt with a forensic pyschologist to interview me about the things hes done
and i dunno should i tell the truth or clam up?
and ive also never told anyone what happened and i dont think ive really dealt with the event...so should i tell them what happened even though its going to be so hard or be quiet?
help!
Answers: so my dad has done some rather unspeakably bad things to me in the part and well very recently i came to understand why he did these things and who he is and who i am and basically kinda sorta not really but partial care about him and well
tommorrow i have an appt with a forensic pyschologist to interview me about the things hes done
and i dunno should i tell the truth or clam up?
and ive also never told anyone what happened and i dont think ive really dealt with the event...so should i tell them what happened even though its going to be so hard or be quiet?
help!
You should really say something. It will definetly be hard for a while but no body should have to go through what you did and if you dont say anything there is a chance that he could hurt someone else. I think you really need to sit down and think about your past even if you dont want to you need to deal with it and tell someone. Make him pay for what he did to you even if he is your father and it might be hard since he is your dad. It may not bug you now because you might not be thinking about it but later on in life these things will bug you and you need to get them resolved now! good luck . if you want to talk to someone you can always email me. :-)
tell him. as hard as it sounds it will make ur life easier. im not just saying this it truly will!!
This is just my opinion, but I think you should tell the truth. You need to deal with this, and you can't do that if you don't talk about it with a professional. Whatever your father's problems are/were, they do not change what happened to you. You need to take care of yourself and not worry about what might happen to your father.
I'm sorry for whatever you went through, and I hope you'll be OK.
If he/she is trying to help you, just tell the truth.
tell the truth!!!! it might be hard to, but after you'll feel a whole lot better having talked it over with someone.
It may be scary, but the best thing is to be honest. You know what you know, and it's not your job to conceal something that everybody already knows has happened. Just tell the truth.
Sorry but you need a slap in the face hear. Re-read what you have just written. Why in gods name wouldn't you keep you mouth shut. Sorry to be harsh but you will get worse if you don't tell the psychologist everything. What is said is kept strictly between you and them.
telling someone is EXTREMELY hard. i totally understand. but life is about living to the fullest, so you need to offer yourself the best in life. Tell them. you should not have to live like this. I know that having this happen by a family member is the most disgusting and repulsive feeling in the world. please muster up your courage and tell them. god bless, and good luck.
You need to be honest and open to this psychologist, even though it will be hard. He wants to help you and can get you the help you need to help you deal with the damage your father has done to you. You will be glad you did in the long run.
If you really want to get help, you should tell the truth. It may be hard, but worth it in the end because you'll be able to deal with your problems. Good luck!!
it will be hard for you to explain this stuff but you need to. make sure who you go see about this is someone you are comfortable with speaking to. and you may initially hide some things, thats natural for you to do. but when you feel more at ease you will begin to know how to explain and express this. honesty is gonna help you. you are doing a good thing by seeking help. this way you can learn to get on with your life and be happy. bless you..john
i know how hard it is to tell the truth, especially about someone like your father. but you really should tell the whole truth, even though you might want to bend and twist some parts. they will probably find out the truth anyway, and it just makes eveything easier when you tell the truth.
Let it all hang out.Keeping things like this to your self is not good
Please talk to some one K !!!!
Oh honey my heart goes out to you.
You need to talk about these things, and you are not doing anyone any favors by protecting your father. Sure you care about him, but he has mental problems and needs to get help too, before he hurts other children.
By talking to the psychologist (who is required to keep confidentiality) you are helping yourself by bringing this stuff out in the open so you can heal.
((hugs))
Tell them. It will leave you feeling better in the long run anyway, and they'll already know what happened if they're looking for the forensic evidence anyway. Evidence doesn't lie. Call it justice and relief. It's the first step to letting it all go and progressing through the darkness.
Your dad did bad things, and you should tell the forensic psychologist. It's not right for you to cover it up. Your dad needs help and you should help him. Even though he did terrible things, and you owe him nothing, he's still family. You should do the deed of telling the truth. It's scary and isn't something you want to willingly admit happened, by they did and you have to accept that it did, so you have to tell the truth.