How can I stop being so angry?!
Question: I have a very, very hard time controlling my temper. I started going to a psychiatrists 3 years ago and I can no longer see him now because of my insurance company. Anyway, he used to ask me to talk about my childhood and I would always get so emotional and so angry thinking back to how unfair and selfish my parents were. He said that my childhood is a big part of why I'm so angry now. I don't know what else to do. I can't afford to see him anymore.
Answers: I have a very, very hard time controlling my temper. I started going to a psychiatrists 3 years ago and I can no longer see him now because of my insurance company. Anyway, he used to ask me to talk about my childhood and I would always get so emotional and so angry thinking back to how unfair and selfish my parents were. He said that my childhood is a big part of why I'm so angry now. I don't know what else to do. I can't afford to see him anymore.
Unfortunately you had a bad childhood and I'm really sorry for that, but try to put that part of your life behind you and move forward. I'm not sure what your parents did, but keep in mind they may have been young, and did the best they could in raising you. This doesn't, however, make it right. You have a wonderful future ahead of you and you should try to focus on that. You can't change the past. Why use all your energy on being angry when you can use it in a positive way. ;) What you have been through has made you a very strong person, so keep that in mind. Good Luck.
Try to channel the anger into something else that is physical, like working out, running, etc.
You probably already know that you won't be able to change the past, no matter how bad it was. The best you can do is work with what you got now. Try doing things for yourself when you get upset. Just leave the situation and go watch a movie, or go for a walk, listen to music.. anything that will make you feel better. I'm not saying it will erase your past, but if you work at giving yourself a chance to be happy then it could help.
why dont you try writing a journal of all of your thoughts... just keep writing.. write watever comes to your head.. and then a month or two from now.. go back and read what you wrote... and your will see what it is that is really making you angry.. that way, you know to avoid it.. another thing is find a friend that u really trust and tell them how u feel.. and why ur so angry.. it will make u feel better.. another idea is to go online and see if you can find maybe a support group that you can join for free..
It is the flashbacks fromyour childhood that are causing the problem, sit quietly on your own and imagine a box in front of you, think of all the hurt inside you and place it purposefuly into the box, close the box (go through the motions) and then place the box into the furthest corner of your loft, then turn and walk away from it,.this is the first day of the rest of your life and from now on you will treat yourself and other people as they and yourself deserve to be treated.God Bless
When you get angry, try doing something physical. Like puching a punching bag, running around outside, ect. Maybe you can get a stress ball. Its a little squishy ball and when you squish it as hard as you can, it usually makes you feel better.