How to find happiness or alteast be happy for some time?!
Question: I am a depressed guy who is on medication for depression for 2 years now. I like nothing in this world. I wish my story ends now. However the truth is if i were to live (since i cant die) i have to be happy for some time atleast, otherwise this depression is going to tourture me without killing me. I have discussed this with my psychiatrist, he says apart from the medicines there is nothing much can be done.
I want to know what you people do when you are very depressed (depressed to the extent you go mad & shout at people) how do you get out of it. I am sure everybody in their life must have got deeply depressed at some point of time for some brief period. As i am depressed i cannot socialize or make new friends. I can't converse with jokes. Nobody likes to be with depressed guy. All want to be with the most happening guy, a guy who is very confident & witty. Since i hate this world nothing of this world interest me. If needed i am ready to develop something to find happiness. NoYoga
Answers: I am a depressed guy who is on medication for depression for 2 years now. I like nothing in this world. I wish my story ends now. However the truth is if i were to live (since i cant die) i have to be happy for some time atleast, otherwise this depression is going to tourture me without killing me. I have discussed this with my psychiatrist, he says apart from the medicines there is nothing much can be done.
I want to know what you people do when you are very depressed (depressed to the extent you go mad & shout at people) how do you get out of it. I am sure everybody in their life must have got deeply depressed at some point of time for some brief period. As i am depressed i cannot socialize or make new friends. I can't converse with jokes. Nobody likes to be with depressed guy. All want to be with the most happening guy, a guy who is very confident & witty. Since i hate this world nothing of this world interest me. If needed i am ready to develop something to find happiness. NoYoga
im in the same situation as you.
i dont even remember the last time i was truly happy for like a whole day. you should IM me so we could talk.
When I become angry or depressed, I try and take that emotion and make it real by writing it down or drawing an interpretation of how I feel. Then, I rip it up. I burn it. I throw it away. Whatever I can do to destroy it. By doing this, I have literally 'destroyed' this feeling.
I hope this helps.
Meditation, yoga - whatever works. And those two are probably the most beneficial and useful, moreso than and medicine.
I stay happy by having a postive attitude such as everyday i look in the mirror i say im beatiful because aye wha you see is what you get so be happy with what you got. I also don't let others get to me. No matter whee you go thiers gonna be that one azzhole that always got somethin to say but the important thing to remember is everybody is intitled to their own oppinion no matter how f*cked up it may be. Also i stay happy by living my life to its fullest.
ho ho ho ho ......
you want to know what i do
first i talk bullshit to myself and it works
i say hey you life is just a dancer, your partner and your beat is never constant, so whatever happens i just go like yea life is swaying with me now so whatever
this way i prevent anger....like dude whatever
happiness though i just do crazy stuff like dancing in the middle of the street at night .... try it :P
Depression is an illness which as some people say 'give yourself a shake' it's not that easy,but try and makeyourself feel better by thinking of happy events in your life of which i am sure you have many.Think of the many people who are much worse of than yourself and try counting you blessings.I wish you well in the future and hope you depression eases
dude. i used to be crazy with depression, literally.
it was only time, and the fact that my friends kinda abandoned me to give me a wake up call.
only time can change this. you can get better, don't think that you cant, just believe that you can.
or
take some drugs.
like acid.
but of course, you can't take a drug like that without being happy to take it.hahaha.
take a break of a week or 3 days. atleast... plan ur tme perfectly with things which u love to do.. might be ur unfulfilled childhood day wishes too... just roam around and do whatever you like... in the end.. u'll really feel relaxed...
You should consult a psychiatrist. There are many anti depressants which work wonders. If there is no concrete reason you can identify for your depression like failure in career, affair , death of someone near & dear etc. then the problem is due to chemical imbalance in the brain. Only medicines and perhaps sessions with a good counsellor will work. Listen to music, read, play your favorite games if you can, socialise and try to live one day at a time. Just think of "today". Read Dale Carnegie's " How to stop worrying and start living" . Try not to be alone for loneliness only compounds the problem. Best of luck.
SMILE PLZZ:)
no medicine can give you happiness.
Happiness is love of something outside of self! It may never be obtained, may never be known by loving only things within self or self's own domain!
To solve the problems of your life: If the problems of the experience today, now, are taken as an expectancy for the unusual and that which is to be creative and hopeful and helpful, life becomes rather the creative song of the joyous worker.
If the same problems become humdrum, something to be fought through, something to be questioned as to their purpose, their activity, their usefulness in the experience, then the life becomes rather as a drone, as of one drudging, coming through toil, and with only turmoil and a vision unclaimed, unactive in its associations with the general conditions of the day
Frankly speaking in this world there is scarcity of human beings who can give us happiness . If still , it is in abundance ,it is in nature ,animals and plants etc.
So try to be as near to nature as you can.
Must remember ultimately Happiness is going to come from within.
But you have to be strong in the words of Swami Viveka Nand "Strength is life Weakness is death "
every person blessed with good health and the primary necessity of life ought to be happy.but happiness is very rare.try to derive pleasure from what you have instead of deriving pain from what others have.it is not the other people ,situations,or events but the mind alone that makes you happy or unhappy.remember; everybody is unhappy because somebody is happier than him
Hi there,
It is for us to decide whether we want to be happy or sad. Okay, agreed, you are on medical therapy for depression. That does not mean that, you have to shout or announce out to the entire world that , " look, i am a depressed man, dont talk to me, or dont make company with me etc etc..
I know people with depression, on medication, who are really wonderful cheerful happy going people .
There are moments when I also feel sad or depressed. Then i try to divert my attention to some usic, or try to avoid becoming aloof , or keep myself engaged in some books of my choice. Thats the trick we should learn .
Some literate person (forget who it was) during his speech had told sometime back,
We dont have to go searching for happiness, ..because it is already within us...it is for us to recognise it, and enjoy it...
Dont worry, it is only a transitional phase for you,. maybe.. try to be cheerful and keep engaged...okay ?
best wishes...
Close your eyes and think of all the happy and beautiful moments of your life.Think of all those ppl who love you and want to see you happy. Understand tht there are people in worse situation than you and you are much better off.Count your blessings and you will start feeling better.
Stay away from smoking,drugs and alcohol.Also,attend "Art of Living" classes,develop a hobby,find a suitable life partner and life will look good to you again.It vl take time,but gradually,you vl be able to shake off your depression.
Good Luck !
Dhanashekhar, You do not search for happiness. It is not out there somewhere waiting to be discovered. Happiness is a choice one makes and lives out. The choice is made consciously and carried out no matter what. You WILL feel depressed sometimes but you must drag your consciousness back to your resolve. In course of time your decision to be happy and positive will colour your circumstances the same way. You will see life differently. You will then NOT react to your circumstances. Your positivity will change your circumstances to your line of positive thinking. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. God bless you.
First thing to remember is that every mood has its own grooves. It persists, it brings up situations where you will be compelled to move in the same rut. When you watch happy people you will notice that they are automatically happy. Every decision they take is born out of this happiness and it is in tune with their happiness and it strengthens them. So the first thing to understand is that every person is in some kind of equilibrium. It is a kind of balancing. Somebody is going through pain and is balancing his life. It is like a person is like a unit. If you change something it again find balance in some other way. So a dipressed person and a happy person are totally different phenomenon. Their bio energies are moving in totally different way. Hence a person ready to get out of depression should be ready to throw away his complete pattern of life.
If you are on the way to get out of depression the biggest hurdle will come from your longing to get out of it. How does this happen. Everybody has a tendency to get out of pain. So you are avoiding the depression.You like to be finished with it soon. You are hoping for a future day when you are going to be happy. That causes you to be far moved from your center.When you are moved away from your center you will not have strength. The same energies which would have strengthened you and given you happiness is now flowing own its own without a center. And that is the cause of all the pains. If you want to come to the path of recovery first thing you have to decide is that whatever happens you will try your best to come back to your center. And that is an invitation to pain. Now whatever pain comes to you you should be willing to face it. Don't try to avoid it and think that by taking medicines one day it will all be gone. You have to work it out inch by inch.
When you are willing to face pain, the pain has a different quality. Now you are no longer a victim. You are only trying to find out that, what is this pain you are avoiding. there will be different kinds of pain. even your loneliness is a kind of pain. When your lonliness is pinching you just don't run after people. Be mentally alert to what is happening. When you are alert and facing, these pain will look very mild and everyday you will be gaining more and more ground. One day you will feel that you don't need the company of people. You are comfortable with yourself. Then people will start coming to you. There is nothing wrong in enjoing the company of people. But if you are longing for them then you become a loser. If you do some shortcuts you will only be increasing the time for the recovery. You need to sort out all these emotions within you first.
Another thing to remember is that as I told each emotion has its own grooves.Take up some comfortable work that will keep your energies engaged. It shouldn't allowed to be dipped. If you want to just lie around look within yourself contineously at the feeling of uncomfortableness. And remain with it. Dont just brush it away and jump out of this uncomfort feeling.
Do jogging or skipping for a short while. Do this a few times during the day. Don't streatch for longer duration but do it often. This will shake away all the wrong patterns.
There are so many wrong things done by depressed people.
1 Interacting with other depressed people. It looks very helpful, that you are getting someone to share who understands. I think that it will not be helful, Itwill keep you hooked up to the same state. Among so many other people you will start feeling normal. If there is willingness to face pain one can walk through all uncomfortable states.
2 Extensive reserch on depression. This is really harmful. Some people would be perfectly Ok. Then they read the question " How to find out you are depressed or not?". One always feels some resemblance with these situations. Then they start thinking that they are depressed. Whatever symptoms they read they will start manifesting in them. There is one major reson I am against study of depression. You must remember that you have very feeble energy available right now. If you start wasting it on studying and mentally working up, you will find yourself lacking energy to make the decisive turn. Also all this wasteful activities are takiing you away from your center.
These are my views on depression, if you find it useful give it a try.
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