Help.......xxx?!
Question: i have an obsetion with my female teacher and i'm female to she is always on mhy mind and i am all ways trying to find excuses to go and see her i'm only 14 am i gay i have allways been really clingy probley some thing to do with the fact i get really badly bullyed and my sister dieded in my arms. help me i don't no why but my teacher is allways on my mind plllzzzz help..xx
Answers: i have an obsetion with my female teacher and i'm female to she is always on mhy mind and i am all ways trying to find excuses to go and see her i'm only 14 am i gay i have allways been really clingy probley some thing to do with the fact i get really badly bullyed and my sister dieded in my arms. help me i don't no why but my teacher is allways on my mind plllzzzz help..xx
You need to talk to a professional counselor about being obsessed about anyone. It does not matter if you are gay, bi or straight.
You cannot have any type of a relationship with this person, she is your teacher and cannot be your girlfriend in any sense of the word.
You are experiencing a crush, these types of things happen to everyone, at various stages of life but you need to be concentrating on your schoolwork and your friends, not on an adult that cannot legally or morally have any type of relationship with you.
She is an adult and could lose her job over anything that occurs with you that does not involve school work. If you are going to see her too often you are going to appear to be a stalker, and that is frightening for anyone.
Please rethink this you are headed down a dangerous path.
It is fine to have a crush, but it is only fine between a child and an adult if it is from a distance. The way that you need to be best honoring your feelings for this person is to do well in your classes and grow up to emulate her.
Good luck and Merry Christmas.
if she is younger maybe she is kinda like a mother figure to you....or sister....i dont know what kinda thoughts youre having about her tho...
Hi;
do not worry.cause being gay is not a thing to be ashemed of. Anyone could be gay and love his or her same sex. You could be gay but before that I reccomend you to try going out with some same aged guys. But don't try to be an adult. Just go out and drink something talk or go to a movie. Be on your own age. OK? After that you try going out with girls. Than decide which was better and what do I like most. By the way try to cantact with a psyciatrist about your sister. There is nothing nobody can say anythig about her or your relation with her without knowing both of you. OK?
Hope you feel better.
MD. Hazer Ayvaz
Firstly im terribly sorry for your loss, that must be so hard for you.
You have lost a loved one in the past and in return have experienced hatred.
The chances are you are just trying to fill a whole in your life which has been brought about by that terrible incident. Your teacher may be a very caring person who is often looking out for you... you may only be grateful for this.
However if on the other hand you have never had sexual feelings towards a boy and are having those kind of feelings for your teacher you may be gay... there is absoloutly nothing wrong with being gay but is wrong to have feelings for a teacher as they are in a position of authority and are probably much older than you.
If you are gay then you have to talk to someone you trust about it like your mum and dad...
You are obviously still coming to terms with the death of your sister, and its probably best you sort this out first talk to your parents or a trusted relative ... i'm sure they will be shocked that you haven't said anything before and will do anything they can to help you ... Best Wishes and A Merry Xmas
Sorry to hear about your rough past. Straight people have crushes just like that on teachers too, its normal. As long as your crush is not harming your education (hey you might even get a better than normal grade in her class) you should be fine and just as crushes go you'll soon enough be crusing on someone else.
maybe you look up to her so you want to be around her to be more like her or you just have a girl crush