I need some help..a lot actually?!
Question: Sorry, but this might be kind of long and boring but if you have time and want to, could you help me out?
I've been having some problems (mostly the same problems) since the end of 7th grade. I am in 10th grade now. I have been really shy my whole life (like too afraid to ask teacher a question or say "hi" to someone). Towards the end of grade 7 I got kind of depressed-like and starting thinking about committing suicide.
Over the summer things got worse and in 8th grade I started going on crash diets, crying a lot, and wanting and thinking of ways to kill myself everyday.
Grade 9 was pretty much the same except I missed a lot of school and starting overdosing on other people pescription pills (but never got caught) and started cutting.
Now it just seems to be getting worse. I am afraid to eat in front of others (I do eat though), I still take a bunch of other people's pescription drugs, and I stopped cutting cause I was afraid to get caught. The first part of my day...
Answers: Sorry, but this might be kind of long and boring but if you have time and want to, could you help me out?
I've been having some problems (mostly the same problems) since the end of 7th grade. I am in 10th grade now. I have been really shy my whole life (like too afraid to ask teacher a question or say "hi" to someone). Towards the end of grade 7 I got kind of depressed-like and starting thinking about committing suicide.
Over the summer things got worse and in 8th grade I started going on crash diets, crying a lot, and wanting and thinking of ways to kill myself everyday.
Grade 9 was pretty much the same except I missed a lot of school and starting overdosing on other people pescription pills (but never got caught) and started cutting.
Now it just seems to be getting worse. I am afraid to eat in front of others (I do eat though), I still take a bunch of other people's pescription drugs, and I stopped cutting cause I was afraid to get caught. The first part of my day...
here's the solution. since you dont feel comfortable talking to people (i suffered from severe social anxiety and couldn't even talk to people i had known for years or my parents or my husband) but you are capable of writing all this down, write a letter and email it or regular mail it to your school counsler.(or parent if you think you'll be able to open up to them with out more fighting.) explain to them what is going on and tell them that you just cant handle speaking about it but ask if at first you can just write back and forth about it. that way you'll start getting the help you need before you actually have to confront talking about it. hope you get the help you need. meds are beautiful.
Well if you are serouis about getting help you should get some counseling or therapy. But just realize by doing this to yourself that you are hurting those around you. And also things will get better but you have to give it time and get some help. Suicide is never the answer.
By the way there should be no shame in getting help. The world doesn't have to know about it. If you go to a counsler or therapist it is all confidental. No one has to know unless you say something.
Well i really cant help u cause i have the same exact problem since 7th grade i ve been like you and now im in 8th, but the best thing to is to confront your parents before its too late.
Find something that makes you truly happy, when I was your age I coped by living in my dreams. Many of those dreams made great stories none of which I have showed anyone, but they helped me to deal with things. my life didn't turn around tell i got a dog, that is when learned what unconditional love felt like.,.
I don't understand what you would want anybody to say to you other than to get help now. We have to say talk to a teacher or a counselor. That is all we can say honey. If you feel comfortable, talk to one of your parents. You sound like you are on a downward spiral and it is going to get worse unless you take action. We all have choices in our lives. Your choices now are to sit and wallow in self pity and wonder why, or do something about it. Doing something about it would be the grown up thing to do.
I wish you the best.
I had a friend who had this problem...and I helped her through it. So try to find a friend you trust and talk to them about all these issues. Dont be afraid to branch out...Meet new people. the more contact you have with others the happier you will feel. I know alot of ppl who are shy and i try to help them. People wont hurt your feelings or be rude if you decide to go and talk to them...who knows, maybe these people have been dying to know the real you!
Dont try to go through this on your own...find someone you trust.
Taking prescription medicine, that you do not have a prescription for can be dangerous, especially if you are taking it in large quantities. You do need to talk to someone, if you want to get better you will have to get some professional help. I used to be the same way you are in high school, and one thing that helped me was trying an after school activity, like a sport, or even something relaxing like chess club. And if all else fails, start going to Narcotics Anonymous, they will help you immensely
read Ecclesiastes, from the Bible. it's astouding. it's at the end of the Old Testament, after Psalms and Proverbs and Song of Solomon. Really, please read it. Then read John, the fourth book in the New Testament. That would be private and personal, and could change your life.
Okay sweetey - listen to me - for real. One, it's quite normal for teens to get "down" and not have a lot of confidence and you will get through it. BUT some of the issues you are talking about could be kind of serious...like possible bipol (which TONS of people deal with). Telling us isn't going to get you the medication you may need to even out. My niece went through what you are talking about - including the cutting, the pills, depression, she quit school. Almost everything you are describing here. She is now 20 years old and in college and doing GREAT. Hang in there -- as you get older, things do change .....when you are 20+ you'll look back at the hell you are going through here. Why can't you talk to one of your parents about this - you can't possibly be shy around them, right? It is you parent to help you get through this....remember, we were ALL your age and if it is something like bipolar, one of them may have gone through it too. You'd be surprised how much us parents can understand. Think about this, if you were a mom and had a teen in trouble, wouldn't you do everything in your power to help them?
I understand how painful being shy can be and that people often misconstrue shyness for being unfriendly or stuck-up. I was extremely shy for many, many years and carried it into adulthood. I know you said you can't bear the thought of talking to a teacher, or counselor, but it is impossible to help you if you won't do what is necessary to help yourself. You have to tell someone...there is no other way to get the help you need. Can you talk to your parents, grandparents, an aunt, an uncle, cousin..adult friend, there must be someone you are close to that you can tell what you are going through and ask them to get help. If not, then look in your phone book or call information and ask for mental health. Ask them if you can get help. Tell them you are a minor and have constant suicidal thoughts and that you are very afraid that you will act on the impulse. I am very worried about you. Please find someone, anyone, that you can trust and talk to them. God bless you.
I'm sorry, but I know you SAY you want help, but you can't possibly get it unless you open up to someone. You're in way too deep to do this by yourself, now. You need professional help, and as embarrassing as it may seem or as painful as it is, you 100% have to tell. You don't have to tell a teacher or any authority. Tell your mom, your sister/brother, anyone you're close to.
You are very close to hurting yourself so much that there's no turning back. You're at an age where things can begin to seem very hopeless, and right now you're a danger to yourself and eventually you're going to start hurting others with your actions. I know you want to stop, but tell yourself that it won't stop until you get some help, and maybe that will push you forward. You don't want to die. I used to think I did, but now that I got help, I realize that my head was cloudy and I wasn't thinking correctly. You've got a lot going for you, kid. You just have to take responsibility for yourself and take the next step.
well sweety, depression is a normal aspect of human life. its how you deal with depression that defines who you are. there are countless things worth living for. i myself had considered suicide once, but i realized there is only one person that can change your life and thats you. everyone plays the cards given to them, its how good you make your cards out to be that will define who you are. i apologize for not being so eloquent. if you need someone to hear you out just stop by my page and email me. i am not a teacher or a consular but i could be your personal diary and friend. laters.
How about trying Dr. Phil (I don't know what the web address would be, but I'm certain he has one!). You could ask some questions on line (nothing to by shy about here) and maybe he could get you headed in a good direction. Being a teenager is not always the best time in a young girls' life, but if you wait, you'll outgrow it. I was always shy when I was young, then I got a job that forced me into conversations with the public. It took a while, but I eventually became more comfortable talking to strangers! Don't give up on yourself...each day we get a new chance to start over!
listen... i have been through exactly the same kind of thing. and i got through it. i started a teen help group to help others get through it too. alot of people say to tell a doctor or councilor and that rarely helps. but my group has been totally effective. you can talk to people and not worry about it because its confidential and everyone else has gone through the same sort of stuff.
our website is
www.myspace.com/speak_out_teens
alot of people talk to me becaus ei have been through pretty much every thing from drugs to suicide, depression to pregnancy, and anorexia/bolemia to cutting.
you can email me confidentially at
luvspets@aol.com
i will reply within 24 hours. write to me ok?
Danielle
baby you need to talk someone trust me
Email me if you want I know what your going through
go to a counselor. I haf a simliar situation, I'm planing to do that too.
Heres some advice and dont fall off track if you do em':
1. take participation in new activities ( you might like )
2. make a friend (it may get hard but some people are nicer then they semm or I could be your friend if you want lol)
3. trust yourself, you're more amazing then you think in your own unique way.
4. take up on a hobby! :D
5. write a journal
6. Make a list of everyday goals (positive) each day and try to achieve them
7. Dont let anybody take you down, you gotta keep going cuz you deserve to live a happy life
hope this helps